Psychology In Seattle Podcast Limerence Deep Dive (Chapter 1 - I Was Wrong)
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Nov 24, 2025 Dive into the fascinating world of limerence, where intensity and obsession collide in unreciprocated romantic infatuations. Explore how it differs from casual crushes, uncover its surprising prevalence, and understand why clinical literature is lacking. Kirk reflects on his journey from skepticism to prioritizing this complex topic, touching upon the neurobiology of obsession and societal misunderstandings. Listeners are invited to recall their own intense infatuations, highlighting the profound impact limerence can have on lives.
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Limerence Defined Versus A Crush
- Limerence is an intense, obsessive, involuntary romantic infatuation that persists when reciprocation is absent or uncertain.
- It differs from an ordinary crush by its duration, compulsiveness, and involuntary nature.
Host Confesses Past Dismissal
- Kirk admits he was wrong to dismiss limerence and apologizes for earlier dismissiveness.
- He recounts initially treating it as just another word for unrequited love or a crush.
Listener Responses Changed Perspective
- A listener survey revealed many respondents identified as having experienced limerence and described severe suffering.
- Those qualitative accounts convinced Kirk limerence can be life-ruining and distinct from normal grief or crushes.