#88 - Swim Fins and Why You Shouldn't Compare Yourself to Others
Apr 17, 2024
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Swim fins analogy - don't compare yourself to others financially, hidden advantages in life influencing circumstances. Avoid comparison, focus on your own financial journey. Celebrate small wins with YNAB and appreciate community feedback.
Avoid comparing financial situations with others due to unseen advantages and financial privilege.
Balance acknowledging financial privilege with hard work in evaluating one's financial journey.
Deep dives
Ben shares his analogy from the YMCA swimming experience
Ben shares a story about his YMCA swimming experience, where he noticed an older lady outswimming him, leading him to reflect on comparison and financial privilege. He realized that just like in swimming, people may have unseen advantages in finance, highlighting the importance of not comparing oneself to others.
Ben's realization in the sauna about financial privilege and hard work
Ben continues his analogy, mentioning how receiving a large financial gift for a new car purchase made him question his efforts. Despite having financial privilege, Ben recognized the hard work behind his financial journey, emphasizing a balance between acknowledging privilege and effort when evaluating one's financial situation.
Ben's experience with communal swimming fins and the lesson learned
Ben decides to use communal swimming fins at the YMCA, leading to a challenging but rewarding swimming experience. The use of the fins symbolizes the unseen advantages others may have financially, reminding him that hard work can coexist with privilege, promoting self-reflection and avoiding judgment or comparison in financial matters.
YNAB users share wins on interest earnings and budgeting success
Two YNAB users, Eve and Sarah, share their wins related to budgeting success and unexpected interest earnings. Both individuals credit YNAB for their financial achievements, highlighting the platform's impact on their budgeting habits, financial awareness, and ability to capitalize on financial opportunities to improve their financial well-being.
In today's episode, Ben shares a story about swimming at the YMCA. One of Ben's favorite forms of exercise is swimming laps at his local YMCA, and while it's a great solitary form of exercise, sometimes you can't help but notice how your pace compares to others in the pool. One day Ben started swimming laps only to notice an older lady absolutely hauling in another lane. Which was... discouraging, to say the least. However, as she was exiting the pool Ben noticed she was wearing swim fins, and her blazing performance began to make sense.
This woman had a huge advantage, but it was hidden under the water. In the waves and froth of the water, Ben couldn't see it. It's a good analogy for financial circumstances. For the most part, we only see the outward indicators of other people's financial life -- the things they can afford to buy, the places they can afford to live -- and even those obversations can be greatly skewed if those people are buying things with debt! It's important to realize that other people have different advantages in life, and those can significantly influence their financial circumstances. So Ben urges you not to compare yourself to others, because you don't know what advantages they've had, and you can't see their full financial picture from your standpoint. As the saying goes, comparison is the thief of joy!