The Three Month Vacation Podcast Re-Run 003 Why Negotiation Consistently Fails In Real-World Scenario
Dec 12, 2025
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Failed Starbucks Negotiation
- A client tried to get a Starbucks barista to grind his coffee and failed despite reading a negotiation book.
- He realized negotiation skills alone didn't overcome unknown constraints or lack of rapport.
Ask What The Other Side Wants
- Effective negotiation asks "What do they want?" not "What do you want?".
- Focusing on the other side's needs avoids tunnel vision and reveals leverage.
The Three Universal Wants
- People want three basic things: acknowledgement, something for themselves, and something for someone else.
- Recognizing these drives simplifies negotiation strategy and priorities.