The Wright Conversations Ep. 65 A Conversation About Compersion with Marie Thouin
In this episode of "The Wright Conversations," host Rachel Wright invites Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach, to discuss the concept of compersion. They break down what compersion is, its significance in relationships, and how it can be experienced and cultivated. Marie also shares her expertise as a compersion scholar and researcher. Whether you're new to the concept or have been curious about it, this episode offers valuable insights into embracing compersion in your own love life.
In this Episode You’ll Learn:
[00:02:45] Interest in non-monogamy.
[00:04:23] Compersion in non-monogamous relationships.
[00:10:30] Creating a non-monogamous mindset.
[00:15:10] Connection with metamours.
[00:18:05] Not liking your metamour.
[00:23:36] The social aspect of non-monogamy.
[00:26:22] Navigating jealousy and compersion.
[00:31:02] Managing expectations in open relationships.
In this episode will learn about the concept of compersion in non-monogamous relationships, including its definition and relevance. They will also learn about the range of emotions and actions associated with compersion, as well as its correlation with relationship satisfaction. The episode explores the coexistence of compersion and jealousy, strategies for cultivating compersion, and the importance of understanding and accepting partners' other relationships. Additionally, the benefits of compersion, such as aligning with personal values and building a supportive community, are discussed. The episode also provides resources for further exploration of compersion.
Quotes:
- 00:04:23 - "But typically there is a correlation between the experience of compersion and relationship satisfaction in those relationships."
- 00:06:44 - "It's just that in the romantic realm, we are socialized to think that's impossible."
- 00:10:23 - "So first, make sure that your mind is aligned with what you're doing as much as possible."
- 00:16:19 - "You know, I think that if you feel that someone is a threat, you dehumanize them"
- 00:23:13 - "the fundamental spirit of compersion is to say it's positive empathy, even when you don't get any direct benefits. But hey, benefits don't hurt. They actually do really enhance that feeling of compersion."
- 00:28:40 - "Oh, it feels like champagne bubbles in my face, it feels like warmth, it feels like a presence or a sensation in my heart."
- 00:30:19 - "Compersion is not a mandate. It can often feel like if you're not feeling this kind of embodied compersion, you're not doing non monogamy or polyamory correctly. And that's just not true."
Connect with Marie Thouin
Website: whatiscompersion.com
Instagram: @love_insight_dating
LinkedIn: Marie Thouin, PhD
Connect with Rachel Wright
Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com
Instagram: @thewright_rachel
Twitter: @thewrightrachel
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