84. Working Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships With Jayson Gaddis

I enjoyed sitting down with Jayson Gaddis, author of

Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in your High Stakes Relationships.

Jayson gave me the real drip on simple/practical steps to cultivating lasting, deep, and meaningful relationships.

I LEARNED SOOOO MANY USEFUL TIPS for resolving conflict in ways that are a win for both parties in the conversation. Many valuable nuggets taken from this conversation.

Jayson is a relationship student & teacher on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–How to do communicate in relationships well. That’s why he founded The Relationship School®. He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 (after some brutal break ups) and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn’t live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.

Find more about Jason:

Jaysongaddis.com

IG @jaysongaddis

Timestamps:

7:20 - What made Jayson write "Getting to Zero"

9:30 - "The bottom of most conflicts is a fear of being left"

12:45 - What are some good entry questions that people can ask when they choose to listen first?

15:36 - Tips to have a regulated nervous system on your own before you try to listen

20:00 - What does active listening look like

23:56 - What if you're dealing with somebody who has hard time dealing with empathy

37:35 - Tips on how to start talking after you've LUFU'd them

45:26 - Jayson's advice on one-sided communications

55:40 - The MOST clarifying question to ask in a relationship

1:02:42 - "If I could do only one thing from Jayson's book, what is it?"