A Mistake in Many Ways: Ep5B I Want to Give Him That Divorce
Sep 15, 2022
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Dive into the intense emotional landscape of Paul's feelings about Yoko Ono, showcasing jealousy and personal priorities. Explore McCartney's journey to a more authentic life, contrasting his past with newfound family joys. Discover the darker side of Lennon-McCartney dynamics, including the impact of bullying. Uncover the controversy surrounding the remix of 'The Long and Winding Road,' revealing power struggles and creative tensions. Reflect on the complex relationships within the band, questioning if deep bonds can endure amidst conflicts.
Paul's jealousy of John and Yoko highlights possessiveness issues rather than just envy, indicating deeper insecurities in their collaborative bond.
Following the Beatles' breakup, Paul emphasizes the importance of family and personal happiness, contrasting his past with newfound freedom in his life.
The physical closeness of John and Paul was crucial for their artistic partnership, and its absence contributed significantly to their eventual disconnection.
Deep dives
Paul's Jealousy and Possessiveness
Paul's jealousy surrounding John Lennon’s relationship with Yoko Ono is analyzed, emphasizing that it may be more about possessiveness than outright jealousy. Paul cherished the Lennon-McCartney partnership and feared that Yoko joining the band could dilute their exclusive songwriting bond. The discussion raises the hypothetical of whether Yoko's integration into the Beatles could have solved interpersonal conflicts, though attendees agree it was a fraught idea. Even if Ringo might have been amenable, George's opinion on sharing band dynamics is questioned, suggesting that the existing tensions could have escalated.
Transformation through Family and Freedom
Paul expresses a newfound emphasis on family life and the joy of being present for his children following the breakup of the Beatles. He reflects on the relationship with Linda, seeing her as a source of freedom that contrasts with his time in the band. This shift is tied to his inner transformation, indicating that he has come to value personal happiness over professional ties. He highlights that spending time with his family allows him to embrace experiences with authenticity compared to the relentless pressures of Beatles fame.
Living Together: A Core Dynamic
The significance of living together for their creative partnership is discussed as a structural necessity for maintaining the Beatles' dynamics. Paul recalls that the effectiveness of their partnership was rooted in their physical closeness since their early days. As they grew apart, the absence of that physical proximity eroded their collaboration, undermining their trust and confidence. The podcast suggests that going back to that foundational arrangement could have helped maintain their relationship, although that opportunity was lost.
Conflict, Bullying, and Emotional Manipulation
The dynamic of public conflict between John and Paul after their breakup is examined, with John being portrayed as a bully, particularly during the 1970s. Public jabs taken at Paul by John highlight a strain in their friendship, with the media's portrayal of these interactions serving to amplify personal grievances. Paul’s sensitivity to criticism causes significant emotional distress, revealing a deeper struggle as he contemplates their shared history and ongoing relationship. This emotionally charged environment leads Paul to seek resolution through legal avenues, highlighting his desire to regain agency.
John's Artistic Freedom with Yoko
John’s relationship with Yoko is framed as a liberation from the intense pressures of his Beatles career, allowing him to explore artistic expressions outside of the mainstream. The unique influence Yoko brought into his life is discussed, presenting her as a catalyst for John’s exploration of avant-garde art that diverged from their pop music background. However, this shift also reflects a abdication of responsibilities towards the band, as John's desire for self-expression at times sabotaged their collaboration. The podcast suggests that this self-sabotage was both a rebellion against his previous successes and a search for genuine authenticity in his art.
In the final (2 part) episode of our series, we’ll address the final event in the Breakup drama of April 1970: the battle of Phil Spector’s production of The Long and Winding Road.
We’ll also take an in-depth look at Paul’s revelatory interview in The Evening Standard. Candid, comprehensive and intriguing, this interview is an important piece of history we have dubbed “McCartney Remembers.”
We’ll examine some of the recurring issues highlighted by Paul in the interview and address the ultimate question: Could John and Paul Have Turned Things Around?
SOURCES
Conversations with McCartney by Paul DuNoyer (2015)
You Never Give Me Your Money by Peter Doggett (2009)
Paul McCartney: The Life by Philip Norman (2016)
“Why The Beatles Broke Up” by Mikal Gilmore, Rolling Stone (Sept 3, 2009)
“Why The Beatles Broke Up; The Story Behind our Cover” by Mikael Gilmore, Rolling Stone (Aug 18, 2009)
The Beatles Anthology (1995)
“Lennon Remembers” w/ Jann Wenner for Rolling Stone (1970)
“The Ex Beatles Tells His Story” Paul McCartney Interview: Life Magazine (April 16th 1971)
Paul McCartney Interview w/ Chrissie Hynde for USA Weekend (1998)
St. Regis Interview, Peter McCabe and Robert Schonfeld (1971)
Q & A from McCartney LP (1970)
“Magical Mystery Tours: My Life with the Beatles“ by Tony Bramwell (2014)
The Beatles: The Biography by Bob Spitz (2005)
Paul McCartney Interview By Ray Connolly for Evening Standard (April 21-22, 1970)
https://www.the-paulmccartney-project.com/interview/interview-for-the-evening-standard
“The Party’s Over for the Beatles” by Derek Taylor for Sunday Magazine, (July 26, 1970)
http://www.meetthebeatlesforreal.com/2017/03/the-partys-over-for-beatles-written-by.html
The Beatles Authorized Biography by Hunter Davies (1968)
The Beatles Anthology (1995)
Cellarful of Noise by Brian Epstein (1964)
The Howard Stern Show “PAUL MCCARTNEY SHARES BEHIND-THE-SCENES STORIES FROM 18 BEATLES, WINGS, AND SOLO SONGS” (Nov 10, 2021)
PLAYLIST
You Never Give Me Your Money THE BEATLES (1969)
Long and Winding Road THE BEATLES (1970)
When the Wind is Blowing WINGS (1971)
Rupert PAUL MCCARTNEY (1977)
Let it Be THE BEATLES (1970)
I Know (I Know) JOHN LENNON (1973)
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