The Partnership Podcast What If Touch Didn’t Mean Sex? Exploring the 3-Minute Game Without Arousal
Can you play The 3-Minute Game without it leading to arousal?
In this powerful episode, Trey and Lauren demonstrate how to play a completely platonic version of the 3-Minute Game - a core practice from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. They explain how this version builds self-awareness, trust, and clear boundaries without courting arousal or triggering old patterns.
At minute 18:23, tune in to watch them play live, bringing real-time curiosity, discomfort, and delight to the table. They show how clear requests and responses can strengthen relational dynamics - even when it’s not about sex.
They also unpack a vulnerable moment from a recent Sunday morning where the game went sideways. When Trey said “do whatever you want,” it sparked confusion and disconnection. Lauren shares how this moment felt like desire smuggling - and what helped them find clarity and repair.
Stay through the end as they offer creative ideas for body-based requests, explore their most challenging quadrants from the Wheel of Consent, and reflect on why this practice is one of the most transformational tools in their relationship.
Want to learn more about the 3-Minute Game?
📚 Read The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen → https://amzn.to/3Gq3HND
🎧 Watch on YouTube or Spotify at minute 18:23 to see Trey and Lauren play in real time!
💬 Curious how this might help your partnership?
Request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at:
👉 www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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