It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure.

When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath)
The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant
How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner

Show Notes:

Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Barnes & Noble
Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble
Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble
“The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory
“Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory
Polyamory in BLACK!
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