“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.”
Ephesians 5:3
We should be pure because God calls us to be.
This is the mindset we need to pursue. It isn’t out of fear of consequences, hope for a better future, or anything else. It needs to be out of love and respect for God and his standards. But we will get into that more tomorrow.
The question for today is, what is purity?
It is ensuring there is not even a hint of sexual immorality in our lives.
That is a pretty high standard, and it can feel daunting to achieve that especially if you have been living in this sin for a while. I know I felt like that was an impossible task when I started this journey. But then I learned something that changed everything:
This battle is not about what you do, it’s about who you are becoming.
Sexual purity isn’t just about avoiding porn or staying away from the wrong websites. That’s surface-level thinking. This journey isn’t about what you do—it’s about finally being the man God calls you to be. And God is calling you to become a man of honor, discipline, and integrity. Sexual purity is the byproduct of a life that belongs fully to Jesus.
The truth is, we live in a world that constantly puts sex in our faces—on our phones, in music, in ads, in movies. So living this new life will not be easy.
You are going to have to make some sacrifices that will hurt.
I know when I began this journey, two things were true:
- I was ready to do whatever it took
- I was sick of being lied to, by the enemy, by the world, and by myself
So I’m not going to do that to you. Here is the honest truth: somedays, this is gonna suck. It’s going to hurt like hell and there will be moments where you will think life was better before.
But remember how you feel right now, ready to be free. Purity is not a one time decision, it isn’t a one size fits all step by step guide, and it definitely isn’t a pay your way service. So what is it then?
Purity is a daily pursuit of God.
It is waking up everyday and deciding, just for today, to live for God and with God in every area of your life.
Half measures and white knuckling it will not work, but you already know that.
You can’t live in freedom if you're pretending you don’t need it.
Begin the Process of Becoming a New Man
Following Jesus means more than a one-time decision. It’s a daily process of surrender. Think of your heart like a house. Have you locked Jesus out of any rooms? Maybe there's a room marked “Lust” or “Shame” or “Private Struggles.” Jesus doesn't want visitation rights—He wants ownership.
“Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in...”
— Revelation 3:20 (NLT)
When Jesus knocks, He’s not just being polite. He’s coming to set you free. But freedom will require sacrifice, intensity, and honor. You won’t drift into purity—you’ll have to fight for it.
The 3 Rules to Start With:
No secrets.
- You can't heal what you hide.
- Be 100% honest all the time, no matter what
No compromise. What you allow in small amounts will master you over time.
- In your allowed media, eye discipline, etc.
- In your consistency
No excuses.
- This is a battle of consistency, you won’t win it in a day, but you have to win today.
- It’s time to be mature
- You are in control, any other idea is a lie
The Key Disciplines to Embrace:
- Daily time in God’s Word – Truth renews your mind.
- Authentic brotherhood – You weren’t meant to fight alone.
- Radical honesty – Say it out loud. Darkness dies in the light.
- Prayer and worship – Not just in crisis, but as a lifestyle.
- Fasting and boundaries – Train your body to follow your
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