How Sean Realised His Burnout Was Autistic, Not Failure

In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon sits down with Sean Hawthorne, a late-identifying Autistic adult who is still in the very middle of discovery — not the end of the journey. Sean spent decades performing a socially acceptable version of himself: the reliable friend, the focused finance professional, the guy who shaped his interests to fit in and kept his sensory overwhelm hidden. But in 2021, a catastrophic burnout forced him to confront a truth he could no longer outrun.

Together, Angela and Sean explore autistic burnout, somatic reconnection, cultural and religious messaging, unmasking, identity, self-diagnosis, and the relief of realising you were never broken — you were misunderstood.

🪑 Attendees

Chair: Dr Angela Kingdon — Author, community-builder, and Autistic advocate

Guest: Sean Hawthorne — Self-diagnosed Autistic adult navigating late discovery

You: The Listener!

🗒️ Meeting Agenda

• Opening remarks from the Chair
• Member introduction: Sean’s early clues
• Discussion: Burnout, masking, religion, culture & re-learning the body
• Key learnings
• Club announcements

🧾 Minutes from the Meeting

1️⃣ Opening Remarks

Angela introduces Sean as someone still in process — mid-discovery, mid-unmasking, mid-clarity — reflecting the reality that Autistic identification can take years, even a decade, to understand fully.

2️⃣ Member Introduction: Sean’s Story

Sean’s earliest clues were sensory processing difficulties so intense that he sometimes froze, unable to respond to teachers who insisted he “just answer.” He excelled academically only when placed in a smaller, more patient classroom — a sign of undiscovered neurodivergence that went unnoticed.

3️⃣ Discussion Highlights

• Sensory overwhelm: Freezing in classrooms, noise sensitivity, overstimulation.
• Masking: Clubs, alcohol, social rules, performing “acceptable” masculinity.
• Cultural & religious pressure: Caribbean/Christian frameworks that framed distress as spiritual or disciplinary issues.
• Burnout: Losing mobility, shutting down, thinking it was “a lack of discipline.”
• Somatic reconnection: Learning interoception, feeling his body’s signals for the first time.
• Self-diagnosis: Valid, grounded, and life-saving.
• Intersectionality: Autistic burnout in the context of Blackness, surveillance, and systemic injustice.

4️⃣ Key Learnings

• Being dismissed doesn’t mean you were wrong — it means you were unseen.
• Masking becomes a personality, not a strategy.
• Burnout often looks like failure until you have the right language.
• Self-identification can save lives long before formal diagnosis is accessible.
• Reconnecting with the body is disorienting — but also a homecoming.
• Autistic adults aren’t fragile; we’re deprived of support.

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