352: My Spouse Controls My Online Life! | Feedback Friday
May 15, 2020
This discussion dives into the challenges of managing a job search under the watchful eye of a nervous spouse. With COVID-19 impacting opportunities, finding a balance between online presence and personal relationships becomes crucial. The hosts unpack the rise of online scams targeting remote workers and explore emotional struggles tied to grief and career crises. Listeners also receive advice on balancing independence from family while navigating societal expectations. It's a blend of practical tips and heartfelt insights.
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Spotting Fake Gurus
Be wary of gurus using jargon and vague language to sell online courses or workshops.
Choose mentors offering clear, actionable steps and avoid platitudes and cryptic information.
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Dealing with Controlling Spouse
Prioritize your job search and well-being over unreasonable demands.
Seek therapy, individually or as a couple, to address control and resentment issues.
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Coping with Grief and PTSD
Seek support from therapists, groups, and family.
Changing your environment can help with processing grief and PTSD.
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Out of work since late last year, you were finally making progress on the job hunt until COVID-19 locked everything down. Now you've been making connections and finding opportunities on LinkedIn that seem promising. The problem is, your spouse is nervous that anything you post there will somehow hurt your chances for getting a job; it seems her resentment that you're not working -- added to the constant proximity of quarantining responsibly -- puts the world through a very negative lens and anything you say is stupid.
So now she's monitoring your LinkedIn account from hers and picking fights with you every time you post anything there. Should you find another place to live for now while pursuing work, or should you just let your spouse control your online life and make that pursuit more difficult? We tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!
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