Why do we work so hard to earn the approval of others? And what is it really costing us?

In this candid, practical episode, Dr. Alison tackles one of the most common struggles she hears from so many of you: people pleasing.

You’ll hear powerful voice messages from listeners as she explores the many forms this pattern can take—from avoiding conflict, to saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” to slowly losing sight of who you really are.

Together, you’ll learn:

5 common roots of people pleasing
How certain Bible verses get misused to reinforce self-erasure
The high cost of people pleasing
3 simple steps to move toward wholeness

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Other episodes you might like :

Episode 46: People Pleasing as Survival

Episode 33: People Pleasing & Developing Your Own Inner Compass

Episode 14: The Fawn Response

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