206: How to Disappear from an Unstoppable Stalker | Feedback Friday
May 31, 2019
This episode tackles serious issues like dealing with a relentless stalker, offering strategies to ensure safety without escalating tensions. It also delves into the emotional challenges of a partner's alcoholism and how to prioritize your well-being. Listeners hear insights on navigating relationships and personal growth, especially after a breakup with a narcissist. Additionally, there’s a playful discussion about Python programming and the joy of thoughtful gifting, blending serious topics with lighter moments.
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Handling Stalkers
Document all communication from the stalker and file a police report.
Cease all communication, direct or indirect, and inform shared contacts not to provide information.
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Dealing with a Partner's Alcoholism
You can't control your partner's alcoholism; seek therapy or Al-Anon for yourself.
Support her recovery if she wants it, but prioritize your well-being.
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Marriage and Commitment
Don't get married if you're not ready, even if you think she's 'the one'.
Work on personal issues and let her go; rushing timelines leads to resentment.
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In this book, Gavin de Becker argues that every individual should learn to trust their gut instinct when it comes to situations of danger or potential violence. He highlights the predictability of violence by identifying pre-incident indicators (PINS) such as forced teaming, charm and niceness, too many details, typecasting, loan sharking, and the unsolicited promise. De Becker also discusses his MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems and provides practical advice on how to spot danger signals, handle threatening situations, and manage fear effectively. The book is particularly valuable for women and others who may be at higher risk of violence, offering strategies to enhance situational awareness and personal safety.
Getting a stalker to drop their obsession with you is seldom as simple as just telling them to go away -- if anything, that might just make the problem worse. So what can you do? In this Feedback Friday, we'll try to show you how to disappear from an unstoppable stalker without escalating an already bad situation.
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