The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 182: Your 'Worthiness' Isn't To Blame
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May 14, 2020 Explore the concept of worthiness, discovering how childhood narratives can distort our self-perception. The discussion emphasizes that our inherent value is not contingent on meeting external expectations. Learn to break free from the cycle of unworthiness, which often manifests in relationships and career challenges. The conversation encourages listeners to recognize their true worth and let go of harmful patterns like people-pleasing and perfectionism. It’s a journey towards self-acceptance and empowerment!
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Deservedness Is A Childlike Belief
- People often link not getting needs met to feeling unworthy, assuming outcomes equal deservedness.
- Natalie Lue calls this a childlike belief we must unlearn to change how we show up.
Personal History Of Learned Unworthiness
- Natalie shares her lifelong struggle with learned unworthiness from childhood insults and conditional messages.
- She links efforting and anxiety in dating to believing effort should guarantee outcomes.
Unworthiness Shapes How You Show Up
- Believing you're unworthy makes you preemptively change your behaviour to seem more deserving.
- That mindset puts you on the back foot and creates pedestal dynamics in relationships.