Focus on the Family with Jim Daly Practical Tips to Transform Your Marriage
Nov 17, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Jason and Tori Benham, authors of 'Marriage A to Z', share practical, Bible-based principles for enriching marriages. They highlight the importance of prioritizing relationships over business and using humor to bond. Through anecdotes, they reveal how appreciation can deepen attraction and alleviate conflict. The couple also emphasizes understanding over agreement and the transformative power of gratitude in addressing unmet expectations. With valuable tools and insights, they guide couples toward a more harmonious partnership.
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Fair $5 Moment Became A Bonding Joke
- Jason and Tori recount a $5 fair moment where Tori angrily threw money and said, “wipe your rear with this,” which became a private joke that diffuses future conflicts.
- That shared humor transformed a tense expectation clash into a bonding memory they still use to reset arguments.
Use Appreciation To Rekindle Attraction
- Practice appreciation daily to increase attraction and release bonding chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine in both spouses.
- Intentionally think thankful thoughts about your partner and express three compliments each day to strengthen connection.
Make God Your Source To Ease Expectations
- Tori shares a walk where surrendering to God shifted her expectations of Jason and relieved relational pressure.
- Seeing God as the primary source lets spouses receive support without overloading the marriage with unmet expectations.
