245: Is Your Boyfriend Cheating on You with Porn? | Feedback Friday

Aug 30, 2019

A deep dive into the emotional complexities of trust and pornography in relationships sparks a lively discussion. The hosts explore feelings of betrayal, emphasizing the need for open communication. They also tackle the struggles of transitioning from free to paid work as a creative, sharing strategies to sustain passion without burning out. Additional topics include navigating workplace dynamics and the importance of valuing your services. With a mix of personal anecdotes and practical advice, this conversation is both insightful and entertaining!

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Porn and Betrayal

A woman struggles with porn consumption in her relationship due to past sexual abuse and insecurities.
Her boyfriend agreed to stop watching it, but she suspects he hasn't, leading to tension.

ADVICE

Therapy for Trust Issues

Address trust issues in therapy, focusing on communication, not just porn.
Frame the issue as personal baggage needing a partner's support.

ANECDOTE

Disqualified Pilot

After six years of training, a woman was disqualified from her dream job as a military pilot for being too short.
She now struggles to find a new career path, comparing herself to her husband who succeeded as a pilot.

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When your significant other agreed to stop watching porn early in your relationship, you were relieved. But now that you've been dating for a few years and everything's otherwise great, you can't shake the feeling that they haven't quite given up porn and it feels like a betrayal. Is porn cheating? On this Feedback Friday, we do our best to get some perspective on this and much more!

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Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/245.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

Due to your own complicated history, your significant other's possible consumption of porn feels like betrayal. Is there a way to understand it from a different perspective?
You spent six years training for your dream job only to be disqualified on a technicality. How can you motivate yourself to endure a similar time sink for another career when you know you're not getting any younger?
As a business owner, how do you deal with the deadbeats who take advantage of your good nature and don't respect what you do enough to give you fair value for your services?
How do people transition from the period of time they need to get experience in their field to the time they get paid for making use of that experience?
Your significant other wants you to list the names of the people you've dated and slept with in the past, and then delete them all from your social media. Is this at all reasonable?
You assumed you were having an email conversation regarding a business proposition with a man you know named Sam, but it turns out it's been with a woman named Sam whom you don't remember meeting. Now what?
You're normally a great conversationalist, but when it comes to interacting with a superior, you find yourself worrying too much about accidentally saying the wrong thing and the conversation ends up stagnating. How might you overcome this?
Life Pro Tip: Looking to cut the cord but dreading the inevitable call to the cable company where they badger you into not leaving? Tell them you're moving out of state where they don't offer services. Your cancellation call will take a fraction of the time.
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