EP. 20: Ellen Heed on Un-shaming, Radical Sexual Autonomy, and the Real Deal on Pelvic Touchwork

Feb 6, 2018

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Ellen and Kimberly Share:

The inside scoop on Exiting the Shame Matrix course and why comes first in STREAM training
Lots of great information about the four domains of pelvic health: the biochemical pelvis, the biomechanical pelvis, the all important scar tissue domain, and the emotional pelvis
Most importantly, what the shame matrix is, how it affects access to life as a whole, and why freeing yourself from it is *essential* before helping others with their sexuality
Your right to self pleasure and thoughts on radical sexual autonomy and patriarchal culture
All about the next Radical Bodywork module and reclaiming the erotic as love of life
The differences between touching from eros and giving erotic massage and all the things that come up in pelvic touchwork from arousal to longing to transference
The role of assessment in navigating boundaries and connected relational exchange
STREAM training news and how to get involved if working with sexuality is your calling

What You'll Hear:

What is the full scope of STREAM? What does it stand for? (1:40)
What are the essential four parts of health? Ellen breaks it down (2:49)
What it means to unpack shame and why there's potential for transformation in the genitals (7:34)
Why is Exiting the Shame Matrix the first module of this training? Hint: Shame affects access to life as a whole (9:32)
A right to self pleasure and how we explored it in the course (12:07)
Thoughts on privacy, secrecy, and self pleasure (12:37)
When it comes to genitals, men wanna be bigger and women wanna be less (13:37)
What is sacred deconditioning? Why taking back authority is key (14:30)
Owning your own sexuality is CONFRONTING in practice (16:45)
We must exit our own shame matrix and be really clear of who we are as sexual beings before helping others with their sexuality (19:05)
Authentic eros vs. shamed based eros. The power of clearing the sexual shadow (21:50)
It's time to own our sexual autonomy and how this relates to #metoo (23:10)
Why undoing shame is powerful in groups (23:26)
Activating Inner Jaguar Course as titrated step into the shame matrix. Be seen in a space with other people (26:00)

Next module (in Feb 2018) is Radical Bodywork: Bone Holding, Body Reading & Touch with Eros (28:30)
Why radical touch? Literally means touching the root - your essential erotic self (28:50)
The difference between touching from eros and erotic massage (33:30)
Kimberly shares what a client may experience with pelvic touch (34:40)
How is arousal held in pelvic touchwork? (36:11)
Is genital touch a transference disaster? How do you create good boundaries? Ellen explains the importance of assessment (37:27)
This is about training your hands for accurate perception, which can only be done if you're free and clear of your own pelvic floor tension (44:06)
The emotional pelvis (45:34)
"No one says cute little anus…" (thoughts on genital amnesia coupled with shame) (46:41)
The genital hole is a kind of trauma (50:37)
Second STREAM training in 2018 and how to learn more. Calling those with a calling to work with sexuality in their body-based practices (51:30)

Upcoming STREAM trainings, including Radical Bodywork

Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Embodied Consent & Boundaries