Keren Eldad, an executive coach and author of 'Gilded', joins to discuss breaking free from perfectionism in dating. She emphasizes the dangers of seeking external validation and people-pleasing in relationships. Keren shares insights on embracing authenticity and shifting mindsets to foster meaningful connections. The conversation dives into self-love, resilience, and finding true happiness from within rather than through a partner. Listeners gain valuable tools for recognizing red flags and cultivating fulfilling partnerships.
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Keren's Early Marriage Story
Keren Eldad shared her experience of marrying quickly due to societal pressure and ending in an abusive marriage.
She described hitting rock bottom and then transforming her life through coaching and self-help.
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Self-Love Trumps Partner Perfection
Chasing the perfect partner prevents true connection.
Real alignment comes from self-love, which makes others enough despite their flaws.
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Reframe Your Dating Mindset
Get tired of your own excuses and admit the dating struggle is a problem you want to solve.
Practice reframing negative thoughts using the pause principle to change your mindset consistently.
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In this episode, I sit down with executive coach and author Keren Eldad to explore how the same perfectionism and overachievement that drive success can also sabotage our relationships. We discuss the trap of seeking external validation in dating, how people-pleasing can lead to unfulfilling connections, and why high achievers often struggle with vulnerability and intimacy. Keren shares powerful insights on breaking free from the need to "perform" in love, embracing authenticity, and building relationships that feel as good as they look on paper. If you've ever felt like you're chasing an ideal in dating rather than real connection, this conversation is for you.
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