The King Within: Modern Masculinity and the Sovereign Man 131: Why Men Feel Lost—And How to Reclaim Your Fire
"I feel like I've lost myself over the years. I don't even know who I am anymore."
I've heard this countless times from men in my groups—and I’ve been there myself. Life transitions like fatherhood, career shifts, breakups, and injuries can leave you feeling disconnected from your fire, your passion, and even your sense of self. But this feeling isn’t random—it’s a pattern, and it has deep roots.
In this episode of The Path, we dive into Nice Guy Syndrome, a pattern of people-pleasing, avoiding conflict, and losing yourself in relationships. I’ll share my personal wake-up call, the hidden beliefs that fuel this behavior, and how to break free.
We’ll also cover:
- The three biggest traps that keep men stuck
- The difference between solitude and isolation
- How to rebuild self-trust and take action
- Why brotherhood and accountability are essential for growth
- How small shifts in language can change your story
If you’ve ever felt lost, this episode will help you find your way back.
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The Grounded King
The Grounded King is a unique blend of an ongoing online men's group and private community with the education and frameworks to go with it. We meet 1x/week for 90 minutes, and you will get access to all of my online programs, as well as the Curriculum to go with your journey. If you’re ready to stop carrying it all alone, and start building from a place of truth and vitality, click below and I’ll send you everything you need to know.
The Grounded King
The Grounded King is a unique blend of an ongoing online men's group and private community with the education and frameworks to go with it. We meet 1x/week for 90 minutes, and you will get access to all of my online programs, as well as the Curriculum to go with your journey. If you’re ready to stop carrying it all alone, and start building from a place of truth and vitality, click below and I’ll send you everything you need to know.