The Partnership Podcast The Truth About Women Dating Shorter Men: Heels, Height & Hidden Bias
In this intimate, grounded conversation, Lauren and Trey explore the truth about women dating shorter men, what culture tells us, what we internalize, and how couples can rewrite the scripts they’ve inherited. Lauren is about an inch taller than Trey without heels, and she often wears heels at his request. Their dynamic opens the door to a deeper look at how lived experiences, early messages, ego, and desire shape the attractions we feel in adulthood.
\They talk about how every one of us is a sexuality educator, whether we mean to be or not. The ways we speak about bodies, preferences, and turn-ons either extend permission or reinforce shame. This leads into a meaningful discussion on the difference between sexual preferences and kinks, and why labeling something a “kink” often reflects cultural discomfort more than personal truth.
To ground the conversation, they offer this clear definition:
“Kink or kinky is seen as an umbrella term for sexual counter-culture, meaning that it goes against the mainstream, vanilla society. Whereas a fetish refers to a specific object, behavior, body part, or fantasy that is necessary for a person to achieve sexual enjoyment or arousal, but it's not always required to be physically present. There is often overlap between kinks and fetishes and sometimes the two terms are used interchangeably to describe a unique turn-on. But, unlike a fetish, a kink is not required for arousal, only preferred or enjoyed.”
Lauren and Trey also explore the inner work required to go against cultural expectations while gently naming that it is absolutely OK to have preferences.
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And if you're wanting support around embodied attraction, sexual preferences, or relational dynamics, you’re invited to request a free consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Ideal for couples in long-term partnerships who want deeper intimacy, more desire, and better sex.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.