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Personal Experience of Unmet Needs
- Jessica De Silva shares her personal experience moving from Los Angeles to a small town in Colorado with her fiancé, facing unmet emotional needs and isolation.
- She describes the stress of renovating a unique home and dealing with her partner's frequent work travel, which impacted their relationship.
Identify Needs with the Five A's
- Use the five A's—attention, acceptance, affection, appreciation, and allowance—to identify and understand your relationship needs.
- Recognize that prioritization of these needs varies by attachment style and understanding this helps avoid taking things personally.
Early Relationship Focus on Freedom
- Jessica describes her early relationship phase wanting independence and freedom after a controlling past, prioritizing allowance over other needs.
- Her fiancé's frequent travel matched her need for autonomy, leading to compatibility in their relationship's start.