Stand-up comedian and actress Sherry Cola shares insights on not letting her mom in on relationships, the complexities of identity, and making a positive impact. The podcast covers topics like chaotic mishaps, QBV vibes, and navigation of difficult interpersonal relationships.
Sherry Cola struggled with sharing relationship details due to generational gaps and queerness with her mom.
Shifting from past scarcity to present abundance, Sherry highlights the transition in material comfort and resources.
Sherry emphasizes valuing lateral collaboration in the comedy community, recognizing the significance of collective support and recognition.
Deep dives
Dealing with Immigrant Parents and Queerness
Growing up with immigrant parents, Sherry struggled with sharing relationship details and queerness with her mom, who saw her as devoid of feelings and sexuality due to past behaviors. Overcoming emotional hiatus with her dad, Sherry gradually opened up about dating men and women, first discussing queerness in 2018 due to her role on a show, and now integrating her girlfriend into her life, contemplating the generational gap and the challenge of bridging it.
From Sugar Sharing to Candy Abundance
Reflecting on her mom's childhood candy sharing and her current freedom to indulge, Sherry highlights the drastic difference between past scarcity and present abundance. The shift from shared candy to personal sugary extravagance signifies a generational transition in material comfort and resources, contrasting historical hardships with contemporary luxuries.
Acknowledging Comedy Peers and Shared Grind
Expressing admiration for Naomi as a favorite comedian and comedian peers like Debra DiGiovanni, Sherry emphasizes valuing lateral collaboration within the comedy community. By lauding the hustle and talent of those consistently working in comedy, including icons and young legends, Sherry celebrates the Canadian cohort as comic royalty and recognizes the significance of collective support and recognition in comedy circles.
Navigating Family Acceptance and Empathy
The podcast episode delves into the challenges of familial acceptance and empathy when faced with cultural and generational gaps. The narrator shares the experience of their mother adapting to the revelation of their daughter's sexuality, highlighting the struggles and complexities that arise from differing expectations. Despite the difficulties, the narrator expresses love and understanding towards their mother, acknowledging the need for patience and empathy in bridging cultural divides and shifting perspectives.
Exploring Open Relationships and Autonomy
The podcast episode features a discussion on navigating non-monogamous relationships and autonomy within a long-distance relationship dynamic. The narrator reveals their desire for non-monogamy and openness about exploring relationships with others, leading to conversations about autonomy and insecurities within the current partnership. The episode touches on the complexities of balancing personal needs for autonomy while respecting the boundaries and insecurities of a partner, emphasizing the importance of communication and mutual understanding in such situations.
Strap in for 80 minutes of delight with the one, the only, Sherry Cola! Maybe you know Sherry from her stand-up, from Good Trouble, from I Love Dick or Claws (an Andy fav!) or 100 other things, but now you can know a whole 'nother side of her! We talk about her not letting her mom in on her relayshes, the Everything Everywhere All At Once of it all, not going to the prom, how Sherry is "Diet Coke Mentos rising", and SO MUCH MORE! PLUS, obvi, we answer YOUR advice questions! If you'd like to ask your own advice questions, call 323-524-7839 and leave a VM or just DM us on IG or Twitter!
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