The Airbnb Superhost #099 Avoid Your Guests Kicking Off
In this episode, Neil is joined by behavioural specialist Andy Baker (Able Training Support Ltd) to dissect a hosting horror story that started with a tumble dryer and ended with accusations of racism. Neil shares the story of how a simple request to turn off an appliance spiralled into a heated confrontation with a guest. Together, they explore the psychology behind why guests ‘kick off’, the dangers of text-based communication, and how misinterpretation can turn a small friction point into a full-blown battle.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Research suggests communication is only 7% words, the rest is tone (38%) and body language (55%). Written notes and texts strip away 93% of the context, making them high-risk for misinterpretation.
Conflict often escalates not because of the actual issue (e.g., a dryer), but because the guest feels their intelligence or identity is being attacked.
When a guest becomes aggressive, the goal isn't to win the argument but to resolve the conflict. Sometimes this means apologising for the impact of your actions, even if your intent was correct.
If you find yourself constantly nagging guests about a specific rule (like locking doors or turning off heaters), the problem is likely the process, not the person. Use smart tech to remove the human element.
Don't just put out the fire (resolve the argument); analyse why it started. If a friction point happens twice, it’s a pattern that needs a systemic fix.
BEST MOMENTS
"Communication can become miscommunication, and how quickly things can escalate, even when you think you're being reasonable."
"Nobody should ever argue based on a text message ever again, because I guarantee you're reading it differently to how they intended it."
"De-escalation is the art of resolving conflict through communication rather than force."
"If a rule keeps causing friction, stop explaining it; systemise it. Remove the need for the conversation altogether."
"The moment something feels personal, it becomes emotional. And emotion can stop us all hearing logic."
ABOUT THE GUEST
Andy Baker runs a company called Able Training Support Ltd which is a national company, and the external training organization of the Alzheimer's Society, as well as partnered with Dementia Forward.
Website; www.able-training.co.uk
email; info@able-training.co.uk
He has his own podcast called “Able to Care”, which is aimed at helping parents, teachers, paid and unpaid caregivers to better understand themselves as well as those that they support.
He also has a book entitled “Targeting the Positive with Behaviours that Challenge”, written for teachers, social workers and professional carers.
The full interview is on YouTube - https://bit.ly/Conflict-Resolve-Andy-Baker
CONTACT DETAILS
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ABOUT THE HOST
Neil has led a fulfilled and unconventional life, navigating an extraordinary journey from the Royal Navy to prop-making in London's West End theatres. Born into a military family, it was a twist of fate which led him to the theatre, where he contributed to iconic productions such as Phantom of the Opera.
Eventually, Neil transitioned to Corporate Event Team Building, eventually founding his own venture in 1999. Financial challenges in 2017 are what prompted a strategic shift to Airbnb hosting, proving a reliable backup income. By 2021, Neil and his business partner triumphed over significant debt, fuelled by their resilience and the success of Neil's Airbnb venture. Now, Neil has left the corporate world behind, thriving solely through his flourishing Airbnb endeavours.
Disclaimer: The Airbnb Superhost is in no way affiliated with Airbnb. All ideas, thoughts, concepts and data presented in this podcast are entirely Neil’s own and do not represent the views of Airbnb.