The Unfiltered Enneagram: Type 9

Apr 23, 2025

Dive into the world of the Peacemaker personality type, where common traits like agreeability and passivity can mask deeper struggles. Explore how Type Nines often prioritize harmony at the expense of their own needs, leading to internal conflict and feelings of self-erasure. Discover the importance of asserting one’s presence and learning to say no, as well as the dangers of numbing emotions. Finally, gain practical steps for fostering self-awareness and engaging more authentically in relationships!

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Well-Liked But Self-Minimizing

Type Nines are often well-liked because they make space for others and value complex viewpoints.
That same receptivity can mask self-abandonment and minimize their own importance.

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Passive Avoidance Creates Hidden Damage

Nines often avoid conflict by becoming passive or passive-aggressive, which halts progress in relationships.
Their spaciousness for others can accumulate hidden resentment and relational damage.

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Fear Of Conflict Fuels Disappearance

Core belief: conflict will disconnect them from loved ones, so Nines suppress preferences to preserve ties.
That suppression leads to disappearing from relationships and not showing up as individuals.

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The Unfiltered Enneagram Type Nine | Real Talk About the Peacemaker PersonalityIn this deep dive into the unfiltered Enneagram Type 9, we pull back the curtain on what really drives the Peacemaker. Type Nines are often seen as easygoing, agreeable, and conflict-avoidant—but there's so much more beneath the surface. In this video, we explore the core fears, desires, blind spots, and struggles of Type Nine, and what it really looks like when they go quiet, avoid conflict, or lose their sense of self.Whether you're a Type Nine yourself or have a 9 in your life, this raw and honest look at the Enneagram 9 personality type will help you better understand their inner world—and how they can move toward greater self-awareness, personal growth, and healthy conflict resolution.🔔 Subscribe for weekly videos on the Enneagram, relationships, and emotional health!👍 If this video resonated with you, give it a like and share with a fellow Type 9.💬 Comment below: What part of the Type 9 struggle do you relate to most?#Enneagram9 #UnfilteredEnneagram #PeacemakerPersonality #EnneagramTypes #EnneagramNine #SelfGrowth #EmotionalHealth #ConflictAvoidance #EnneagramCoachTransformational Enneagram & Relationship Coaching More info at https://www.tomlahue.com/Social Media Links: https://linktr.ee/drtomlahueFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/twlahueTwitter: https://twitter.com/twlahueInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/twlahue/Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/tom-lahueAlso available on Apple Podcasts and SpotifyPatreon Supporters: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=20899026It's simple, Give if you want to and are able to...no pressure! Dr. Tom LaHue is a graduate of Florida Christian College. He holds 3 Master's Degrees including an MDiv from Liberty Univ. His Doctoral degree is from Grace College and Seminary. He is also a certified Marriage Coach. He and his wife Traci have been married since 1991. They are the proud parents of 5 children and 5 grandchildren.#enneagram, EnneagramTypes, CliftonStrengthsFinder, PersonalityAssessment, self-discovery, Strengths-Based Development, Understanding Personality, Personal Growth, Enneagram Test Results, Unlock Your Potential, Mindfulness, SelfAwareness, SelfImprovement, LifeCoach, UnlockPotential, Motivation, strength, Relationships, love, soulmate, self-love, love yourself, intimacy, emotional connections, dating, communication, healthy relationships, true love, power of love, relationships, marriage, love language, love quotes, love tips, love and happiness, trust, love and relationships, love advice, unconditional love, happy, love, Myers-Briggs,