Big Dating Energy Burn the Haystack with Dr. Jennie Young
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Apr 4, 2024 Jennie Young, a college professor and creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method, dives into the complexities of modern dating apps. She shares her ten rules for navigating these platforms effectively, emphasizing the importance of using language intentionally. Jennie discusses the gamification of dating apps and how to protect mental health while online. With insights on crafting impactful profiles and identifying green flags, she demystifies the pitfalls of digital dating, making the experience more strategic and less overwhelming.
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Apps Use Ludic Loops And Dopamine
- Dating apps are intentionally gamified using ludic loops and intermittent rewards to keep you hooked.
- Their metric of success is engagement, not helping you find a long-term partner.
Read Coded Signals, Not Just Surface Text
- Critical discourse analysis reveals what people unconsciously reveal via words and images on profiles.
- Learning to read these cues lets you filter candidates faster and avoid wasting time.
Use The App Like A Tool
- Treat the dating app like a tool you use and then put away, not a place to live in your head.
- Be intentional: check it for purpose, not for dopamine or boredom.
