With Joe Wehbe 281: Is Community, 'Finding Your People' & Connection To Others Really The Answer?
Just how important is community and connection to others? How much difference does access to a community or finding the ‘right’ people make?
Can the value be over-hyped? Are people concretely Introverted or Extroverted, or is there more to it? Why do some of us feel just as comfortable around people as we do alone for long periods of time?
We explore these questions in episode 281 of the With Joe Wehbe Podcast… having previously built a formal community and tapped into different kinds of communities, we cross-reference personal experience and observation with a lot of conventional wisdom and science to unpack this.
We also explore nuance like expectations, relief-seeking, healthy reliance on and relationships with others, and where we project personal challenges onto the need for community. Within the episode show notes / Youtube description there are also links to other podcast episodes and blog pieces I’ve written in the past with my views on this same topic, and some of the science or theories that formed old views about the importance and role of connection to others.
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SUMMARY:
0:00 Introduction
1:53 Luke’s experience with community, running community and the workplace.
7:00 Joe’s experience with community, feelings of isolation & building a community
11:48 ‘I’ve never met a peaceful person who didn’t seem comfortable in their own skin.’
14:28 Exploring Introversion vs. Extraversion, and an alternative theory based on experiences.
18:20 Does Every Group Have Its Own Personality?
21:45 The Role of Expectation and Projection
26:10 Exploring The Energy We Get From Others
28:30 Not Mistaking In Others What Is In You & Identifying With Groups
33:00 How People Might Become Fooled Into Thinking Others Are The Solution.
39:20 What Issues do we ‘create’ for ourselves? Jumping over walls of self-built anxiety.