Ep 227: 10 Years In | Money, marriage, and the lessons we didn’t see coming

This week we’re celebrating our 10 year anniversary by sharing some lessons about money, partnership, and staying excited about the long game.

10 years of marriage isn’t just a milestone, it’s a record of every choice you made together, from buying a house to splitting a check to deciding who’s unloading the dishwasher. Some of those choices aged well. Others? Let’s just say they came with late fees.

In this episode, we get into:

• What to do when “my idea” needs “our money,” and how to bring and how to bring it up without sounding like you’re making a sales pitch or begging for permission
• The difference between conviction and borrowed confidence, and how to tell if you’re just hyped by somebody else’s results
• The price we’ve paid for decisions that looked fine in the moment but flopped later and how we move on without dragging it out.
• Why marriage isn’t 50/50 most of the time, and how keeping score only makes the game worse.
• The trap of calling yourself “the responsible one” or “the spender,” and how those roles mess with the way you see each other
• The metrics that matter more than net worth if you want your marriage (and your life) to feel exciting in year 20, 30, and beyond

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