Become New with John Ortberg Why Honesty Is So Hard
Nov 26, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Rick Blackmon, a psychologist and counselor specializing in relationships, dives into the complexities of honesty. He explains why honesty is crucial for building intimacy and trust while revealing how dishonesty can fracture relationships. They explore five forms of dishonesty and share real-life examples from therapy. Additionally, listeners are challenged to practice telling a loved one a meaningful truth. This insightful conversation offers practical tips to cultivate honesty in everyday life.
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Honesty Is What People Most Value
- Honesty ranks highest in what people both like and respect in others and want to know about them.
- Christian Miller's Honesty Project highlights a surprising lack of research despite honesty's central social value.
Deception Destroys Intimacy
- Rick Blackmon says intimacy equals knowing and being known, and deception destroys that felt reality.
- Discovering a loved one's deception is disorienting because it undermines what you thought was bedrock.
Repair Trust With Small Honest Practices
- After deception, rebuild trust through micro attention to honesty and verification when needed.
- Combine careful verification with a capacity for forgiveness to enable relationship repair.