

The Scientific Truth About Marriage & Attraction
Sep 25, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Roger Nygard, filmmaker and author of The Truth About Marriage, explores the science behind attraction and relationships. He shares insights on why relationships are challenging due to cultural evolution, defines different types of love, and emphasizes the importance of active listening. Roger provides practical tips for dating, such as being a genuine listener and building attraction through confidence. He highlights the role of gratitude in maintaining passion and offers advice for navigating conflicts healthily.
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Modern Rules Clash With Ancestral Instincts
- Culture evolved faster than our biology, leaving modern relationship rules mismatched with ancestral instincts.
- Monogamy arose with agriculture and large societies, creating tensions with evolved sexual and social drives.
Marriage For Love Is A New Invention
- Marrying for love is a recent invention driven by individualism about 150 years old.
- Previously marriage was a survival and alliance arrangement, not a soulmate quest.
Personal Failures Spark The Project
- Roger recounts being in love three times and failing to reach marriage each time for different reasons.
- His failures motivated the documentary and book to discover what he was doing wrong.