Fast Company Daily Why taking a break mid-argument is the best conflict-resolution hack
May 14, 2025
Discover the surprising benefits of taking a break during heated arguments to improve conflict resolution. A personal story illustrates how pausing can foster deeper understanding. Learn about the strategic pause as a tool for emotional clarity, along with practical tips like the 90-second rule to navigate disagreements more effectively. Transform tension into communication with these insightful strategies!
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Pause Changed Argument Outcome
- Justin Jones Fosu paused a tense political text argument and switched to a voice note, then arranged to meet in person.
- This shift softened the tone, resolved the disagreement, and deepened their mutual understanding.
Use Strategic Pause in Conflict
- Use the 'strategic pause' to interrupt conflict and reset as your equal self with clarity and respect.
- Signal intent to return; don't disappear or avoid responsibility during breaks.
The Three Selves in Conflict
- Conflict triggers three selves: superior self (I'm right), inferior self (I'm wrong), and equal self (we're both human).
- Breakdowns happen when stuck in superior or inferior mode; equal self fosters collaboration.