Disruptors Rob In Therapy: My Deepest Content in 15 Years [Business, mindset, entrepreneur, disruptors]
Jan 10, 2020
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“You don’t need to be broken to have therapy” Therapy comes in many shapes and sizes and it’s not just an answer for ‘the broken’ Therapy is essential for personal development, learning, coaching, gaining perspective and most importantly understanding who you are. Therapy is not something to be feared, seeing a therapist is not something that should be judged, it’s a path to a better and more positive mindset. Tune in to discover Rob’s reason for therapy and how it has helped him grow in business and in life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Personal development. Understanding who you are and how you work and how your mindset work and managing your emotions is not just vital, but almost the key determinant of success. Having mentors, doing courses, having a coach, having a therapist are some of the best ways you could ever develop yourself.
- It’s the mindset and the emotional stuff that most people struggle with. When you’re struggling with yourself, you will struggle with everything that comes your way and success will not be your thing. This way, you need a therapist who will listen to your struggle and help you confront all your struggles, therefore, you will be able to face the challenges that the world gives you and come out a winner and thus you will be successful.
- Most people perceived that there has to be something wrong with us, there has to be something broken to need a therapist. You may be too successful, but with success comes great responsibilities, challenges and sometimes you may feel lonely because you know you can't go to the next person beside you because you also know very well that they are also facing their challenges and this may break you inside and cause your downfall, instead of all this, you can pay someone who is paid to listen to people, and that is the therapist. Do not fear that people will judge you that you are messed up or have a problem since you know yourself, don't let people's limitations limit you.
- The best thing about having a therapist is they don't know you, and because they need to know you from your childhood when you're building up the relationship and trying to let the therapist know you better, you might discover that it's not your current state which is the problem, your childhood was the problem and letting that thing out helps you to move forward with your life and not get stuck at one particular point. So you find yourself having those deep conversations that you couldn't have with people who know you, and this way, the therapist is now able to help you.
- When you imagine people saying things about you even when they're not, 99% of the things that you worry about don't come true, but you worry about them anyway. When you do those personal development kinds of stuff like therapy, you learn that you're not the problem and you start to like that about yourself and learn to love that about yourself.
- Understanding your earliest memories, and getting to know that younger you and having some sympathy and some love and some affection and admiration for that younger you, that is a great gift you can give yourself because let's be honest, when you two and five and six and things happen to you that make you feel pain, alone, rejected, you wouldn't have sympathy for you, you wouldn't be like bully yourself or beat yourself up or be hard on that version of you, you would care about that person, love that person, you would probably respect how that person dealt with that situation. If you can do that to yourself, take yourself out of yourself, look at yourself when you're young and the pain that you felt and the mistakes that you made and you just really appreciate and admire how that person dealt with that and what they did, that's going to benefit you in your adult life.
- Who are you? Who is the child in you? What were the voids that you had? What were the pains that you felt from a very early age, I think it's a good thing for you to go there. You may find some trauma, you may feel alone or wounded when you go through that, but if you can also see the gifts in who it made you and who it's making you become and if you can find a way to leverage that and turn that pain into gain for yourself and others, that is an amazing gift that you can give to yourself.
- The most important thing to learn about business and life and becoming successful is managing your emotions, mastering your emotions, if you can shut up when everyone else is shouting, if you can speak up when no one else does, have the bravery and the courage to do that, if you can listen when others fail to do that if you can put yourself out there and take the arrows if you can be grateful for criticism if you could take the rejection and still be persistent. If you can say stay consistent when it gets hard, that is life mastery, that is business mastery right there.
BEST MOMENTS
- “The skillset without the mindset will leave you upset.”
- “In the last two months of therapy, I've learned more about myself than I had in the last 14 or 15 years.”
- “It’s okay to ask for help.”
- “You can never get deep enough when you talk to people, even if they're really good listeners because they tend to take the conversation down where they need to go.”
- “Your voice becomes your values.”
- “Your strengths are linked to your weaknesses; your pain is linked to your gift.”
- “You don't just need therapy if you think you're broken, do it if you think you're struggling or if you think you're alone.”
- “Love that child in you, be sympathetic for that child and forgive that child in you, forgive the people you perceived hurt that child in you, be grateful you've not had as big trauma as many other people.”
- “You should realize that when people judge us, that's where they're at. “
- “If you don't risk anything, you risk everything.”
- “I don't think you need to be broken to have therapy.”
- “Speed is good.”
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ABOUT THE HOST
Rob Moore is an author of 9 business books, 5 UK bestsellers, holds 3 world records for public speaking, entrepreneur, property investor, and property educator. Author of the global bestseller “Life Leverage” Host of UK’s No.1 business podcast “Disruptors”
“If you don't risk anything, you risk everything”
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