Explore how Later Daters rethink what they find attractive. Reevaluate attractiveness and consider emerging qualities. Look beyond superficial markers and focus on positive mindset, openness to change, and strong intergenerational relationships.
Reflect on how preferences and priorities have changed, moving beyond surface-level physical attributes.
Reassess what is attractive in light of current values and personal growth to create meaningful connections.
Deep dives
Revisiting Your Definition of Attraction
In this episode, the host discusses the importance of revisiting your definition of attraction as a later dater. The host encourages listeners to reflect on how their preferences and priorities have changed over time, comparing it to how our palates and fitness goals evolve. The episode highlights the need to move beyond surface-level physical attributes and explore the deeper qualities and attributes that make a person attractive. It emphasizes traits such as having a healthy relationship with technology, being well-informed without being overwhelmed, having financial awareness, and being open to changing opinions. The episode encourages later daters to value relationships across different generations and to redefine their markers of attractiveness for a more modern and meaningful dating experience.
Expanding the Definition of Attractive
This segment focuses on expanding the definition of attractiveness beyond traditional markers like physical appearance, financial status, or job titles. The host encourages listeners to look for overlooked characteristics and traits in potential partners. These include having a healthy relationship with technology, being well-informed, understanding one's finances, pursuing fitness goals for personal growth, being open to changing opinions, and maintaining strong relationships with people from different generations. By updating the markers of attraction, listeners are encouraged to have a more multifaceted perspective of potential partners and to design dates that explore different aspects of their personalities.
The Impact of Modern Influences on Attraction
The episode highlights how modern influences shape our perception of attraction. It acknowledges that biology and evolution play a role but emphasizes that our definitions of attractiveness are heavily influenced by the people around us, cultural definitions, and media portrayals. The host points out that what we initially find attractive may change as we gain life experience and maturity. The episode urges listeners to be aware of the associations and biases they may have developed and to consciously reassess what they find attractive in light of their current values and personal growth. By doing so, listeners can expand their understanding of attraction and create more meaningful connections in the ever-changing landscape of modern dating.
Listen in as Lakshmi shares how Later Daters are rethinking and revisiting what they even think is attractive. This is about more than just exploring other "types" this is about taking a look at what might be attractive today...what attributes, traits and qualities matter to you more now? They may or may not be what they used to be.
Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067
Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi
The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.
Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!
Get the Snipd podcast app
Unlock the knowledge in podcasts with the podcast player of the future.
AI-powered podcast player
Listen to all your favourite podcasts with AI-powered features
Discover highlights
Listen to the best highlights from the podcasts you love and dive into the full episode
Save any moment
Hear something you like? Tap your headphones to save it with AI-generated key takeaways
Share & Export
Send highlights to Twitter, WhatsApp or export them to Notion, Readwise & more
AI-powered podcast player
Listen to all your favourite podcasts with AI-powered features
Discover highlights
Listen to the best highlights from the podcasts you love and dive into the full episode