How To Set Boundaries Without Guilt w/ Barb Nangle (E144)

Dec 11, 2025

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Many people view boundaries as a way of pushing others away, but boundaries are actually meant to keep people in your life with clear rules of engagement that support connection rather than distance. When you learn to set healthy boundaries, you protect your well-being, honor your needs, and create relationships grounded in respect, clarity, and genuine connection.

Joining us today is Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach, speaker, author, and the Founder and CEO of Higher Power Coaching and Consulting, LLC. She is also the host of the podcast Fragmented to Whole, where she shares life lessons from her journey in 12-step recovery.

Barb dives into the concept of boundaries, explaining what they are, the different types, and why they are essential for healthy relationships. She also shares her personal journey, including her experiences with patriarchy, the evolution of women’s rights, and her 10-year recovery through the 12-step program.

Additionally, Barb explains how the program works, its benefits, and how it helped her uncover parts of her identity she never knew existed, including recognizing her victim mentality and understanding how it manifests.

Finally, Barb discusses the power of affirmations and how they shape thoughts and beliefs. Moreover, she explains how she helps clients build healthy boundaries, reclaim their power, and step confidently into their authentic selves in every area of life.

Timestamps:

[00:00] Trailer

[03:06] Who is Barb Nangle?

[08:43] Patriarchy

[12:06] Recovery Journey

[22:26] 12 Step Recovery Program

[26:13] Victim mentality

[35:25] Affirmations

[50:05] Coaching Approach

[57:55] Boundaries

Key Takeaways:

• Boundary work helps you develop a sense of internal safety so you can withstand the vicissitudes of life. ~Barb Nangle [20:51]

• The trash from your past is not your fault; it just becomes your responsibility once you become aware of it. ~Brian Bogert [25:30]

• Questions create options and opportunities for us to have new choices and take new actions. ~Brian Bogert [31:46]

• Not making a choice is a choice. ~Barb Nangle [32:50]

• “The greatest choice is the choice of what to think.” ~Barb Nangle [33:52]

• The largest distance in the universe is between the head and the heart. ~Barb Nangle [35:18]

• It’s easier to replace a negative thing with a positive thing than to change the negative thing. ~Barb Nangle [36:26]

• If you are not willing to feel uncomfortable, you are going to stay where you are. ~Barb Nangle [37:35]

• “The definition of self-worth is what you believe you deserve.” ~Brian Bogert [57:04]

• Many people view boundaries as a way of pushing others away, but boundaries are actually meant to keep people in your life with clear rules of engagement. ~Brian Bogert [57:55]

• It is easier to put slippers on your feet than to carpet the world. ~Barb Nangle [59:39]

People Mentioned and Other Resources:

1. The Secret: https://bit.ly/44kZl35

Keep In Touch with Barb Nangle:

Website: https://higherpowercc.com/

Podcast: https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbnangle/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/barb.nangle.2025/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@higherpowercoaching

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higherpowercoaching/

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