Episode 79: In Sickness and Health with Jay Wolf

I became disabled in an instant, but my husband Jay did not become a caregiver in that same instant. No one, like, gave him a pamphlet or anything! He had to learn by trial and error, and the stakes were high.

Many of you, dear friends, are in a marriage with a caregiver or care-receiver and you’re navigating what it looks like to uphold a version of your vows you didn’t see coming. I am the first person to affirm what a complex position you are in.

After nearly 17 years of this caregiving-in-marriage deal, we’ve learned a few things about healthy conflict, surrendering control, and releasing old dreams. We’ve also made all the mistakes. So Jay and I want to share a little wisdom—and a LOT of encouragement.

Here’s what you can expect from our time together on The GoodHard Story podcast this week:

• The #1 way we “beat the odds” of divorce after a traumatic brain injury
• What’s worked for us (and what hasn’t worked) in conflict resolution
• Leaning into non-traditional gender roles in our marriage
• Deciding to dream new dreams for our lives
• How I stopped feeling like a burden in my marriage

If you’re longing to feel seen and supported in a caregiving marriage, this episode is for you.

Show Notes:

The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller - https://a.co/d/9P0hVVF

Stanley Hauerwas - https://stanleyhauerwas.org/

Hope Heals Camp - https://hopeheals.com/camp

Ep. 76 - 5 Ways to Start Believing You Are Worthy of Care - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-76-solo-5-ways-to-start-believing-you-are-worthy/id1496882479?i=1000676043943

Ep. 74 - Unspoken Demands for a Perfect Life with Sho Baraka - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-74-unspoken-demands-for-a-perfect-life-with/id1496882479?i=1000674277593

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