The A to Z English Podcast Quick Chat 019: Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
In this episode, Kevin, Jack, and Xochitl talk about being an introvert, an extrovert, or as Jack and Kevin learned for the first time, an ambivert. What about you? In what situations are you introverted or extroverted?
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Discussion Questions:
1. Are you an introvert, an extrovert, or an ambivert? And why do you think so?
2. Do you know any introverts or extroverts?
3. Why do you think most people are ambiverts?
Full Transcript:
00:00:02Jack
You are listening to the A-Z English podcast.
00:00:10Kevin
Welcome to an A-Z English quick chat. We're going to surprise each other with a topic for the day and see where the conversation goes.
00:00:17Kevin
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00:00:27Kevin
Can join in the conversation.
00:00:29Kevin
So Jack, how you doing today?
00:00:31Jack
I'm pretty good.
00:00:31Kevin
What do you want to talk about?
00:00:33Jack
You know what I want to talk about?
00:00:35Jack
Whether you think the three of us, do you think you are an extrovert or an introvert?
00:00:41Jack
And so that might be some, we might have to explain the vocabulary there first before we yeah.
00:00:46Kevin
I think we should.
00:00:48Jack
So how would you describe an introvert?
00:00:48Kevin
I think we should.
00:00:51Jack
What does that mean?
00:00:53Kevin
Introverts, no go ahead.
00:00:53발표자 1
I think.
00:00:54Kevin
So, So what do you think?
00:00:55Xochitl
Oh, there's an introvert is someone who feels recharged by spending time alone.
00:00:59Xochitl
That's the basic and an extroverted so many feels recharged by spending time with others.
00:01:04Xochitl
People so.
00:01:05Kevin
I like that definition.
00:01:06Jack
I do too.
00:01:07Kevin
Being recharged by by that, yeah, someone who's better alone or better with people.
00:01:12Kevin
But yeah, you get energy from from that.
00:01:15Kevin
And the opposite is takes your energy away, right?
00:01:18Kevin
Like if you're an introvert and you're with a lot of people, that's very difficult.
00:01:22Kevin
It it's draining your batteries and if you're an extrovert in your home.
00:01:25Kevin
Alone, you're just bored and and wasting time.
00:01:28Kevin
Nice. That's a cool definition.
00:01:29Jack
So let's let's let's start with social first.
00:01:32Jack
How would you define yourself?
00:01:34Jack
Would you say you're an extrovert or an intro?
00:01:36Xochitl
So I'm actually an ambivert and this is like why I thought of this as well.
00:01:42Xochitl
I was like, everyone is like, oh, there's like a meme that goes around.
00:01:45Xochitl
It's like, oh, I'm an extroverted introvert.
00:01:47Xochitl
Or I'm an introvert, extrovert.
00:01:48Xochitl
And like, the word you're looking for is anywhere.
00:01:50발표자 5
Please could someone just understand?
00:01:52Xochitl
Because when I I remember when I took psych caught like 18 psych in high school, our teacher literally was like, yeah, most people like 99% of people are actually Angry Birds is.
00:02:02Xochitl
Really rare for people to be a true introvert or true extrovert and I really.
00:02:06Kevin
This is actually the first time I've heard that term of ambivert as well.
00:02:09발표자 1
Yeah, is this?
00:02:10Kevin
And of course, right.
00:02:10Jack
Am by like that and be.
00:02:13Xochitl
Yeah, and I and.
00:02:14Kevin
Well, OK, think about think about it, Jack.
00:02:16Kevin
Like, ambidextrous, right?
00:02:17Kevin
If you use both hands and I am B.
00:02:18Jack
Yeah, right, right. Yeah.
00:02:20Kevin
So yeah, ambidextrous, both hands.
00:02:23Kevin
That's interesting.
00:02:23Kevin
Yeah, so an ambivert someone who in some situations is introverted in some situations is is extroverted.
00:02:31Xochitl
Yeah, and I really, I think the biggest thing for me is like I I can't like, I used to spend a lot of.
00:02:38Xochitl
Time alone, but I think.
00:02:40Xochitl
It's I feel better when I go out and spend time with friends and like do.
00:02:44Xochitl
Things but when I come home, I.
00:02:46Xochitl
Need like a solid amount of?
00:02:47Xochitl
Time to myself too.
00:02:48Xochitl
I can't just like a lot of my sister is a true extrovert and she'll just, like go out with people.
00:02:53Xochitl
Spend the whole day with people.
00:02:55Xochitl
Do everything people.
00:02:55Xochitl
Come home to like.
00:02:57Xochitl
Her two dogs, 3 cats and whatever like.
00:03:00Xochitl
And then go.
00:03:00발표자 1
Yeah, right.
00:03:00Xochitl
And then just like blow this week and I'm like, no, no, no, if I go out with people, I needed a solid hour or two to myself.
00:03:06Xochitl
So will wind down 1st and.
00:03:08Xochitl
Then go to.
00:03:08Kevin
Right, exactly.
00:03:08발표자 1
Sleep, but if I.
00:03:10Xochitl
Spend too much time alone, I also.
00:03:12Xochitl
Don't feel well, so I'm definitely just.
00:03:13Xochitl
Like a true and.
00:03:17Kevin
I think, I think we're going to, we'll probably all say now that we've learned this new word from you.
00:03:21Kevin
So that's why I think I also am an ambivert.
00:03:24Kevin
But but we can define these a little bit more.
00:03:26Kevin
I think for me, my case is also kind of interesting, I mean.
00:03:32Kevin
I think all of us here, we have to be at least somewhat extroverted because we're recording ourselves and.
00:03:38Kevin
Putting it on the Internet for people to see.
00:03:40Kevin
A true introvert would not be willing to do this right.
00:03:44Kevin
This would be scary for treasure, right?
00:03:44Jack
No, this would be health and yeah, be terrible, yeah.
00:03:49Kevin
And then like the.
00:03:50Kevin
Three of us.
00:03:50Kevin
Also, we've all lived in other countries.
00:03:52Kevin
We all came to Korea like, that's something that, for a true introvert, would be very difficult to do so overall.
00:03:58Kevin
I'm pretty extroverted in many ways, though, I'm the same like when I come home after a long day of school.
00:04:04Kevin
I'm talking to students all day.
00:04:06Kevin
I kind of do want just 30 minutes or an hour.
00:04:08Kevin
Just to not talk.
00:04:10Kevin
And just calm down.
00:04:12Kevin
But my case is kind of interesting because when I was a kid I was crazy shy.
00:04:17Kevin
Like crazy shy, I was the kid who would hide behind my mom's leg and be like, don't talk to me.
00:04:24Kevin
Don't look at me.
00:04:24Kevin
Oh my God.
00:04:26Kevin
And and so I was super introverted, super shy when I was very young and then sometime between high school and university I kind of came out of my shell and and found the extrovert Kevin that that I am now.
00:04:46Xochitl
I would say I really relate to that because.
00:04:48Xochitl
I remember when I was a kid, my parents.
00:04:50Xochitl
And I do.
00:04:50Xochitl
Remember, doing this people would come up.
00:04:51Xochitl
Talking and I say.
00:04:52Xochitl
Don't talk to me, I'm shy.
00:04:55Jack
That's an extroverted, that's a that's a power.
00:04:58Jack
Move right there.
00:04:59발표자 5
Yeah, my dad was like, you're not shy, you're reserving.
00:05:03발표자 5
You just don't want to bother with these people.
00:05:05발표자 5
Like, really weird a little kid to be that way.
00:05:08발표자 1
Right.
00:05:08Xochitl
So yeah, and my sister was a true extrovert.
00:05:11Xochitl
My mom said it's fine 'cause.
00:05:12Xochitl
She's my older sister, and when she would talk to strangers, I'd be like.
00:05:15Xochitl
Don't talk to strangers like let's go.
00:05:18발표자 5
Young like a six year.
00:05:20Xochitl
Old being like don't hug strangers.
00:05:22Kevin
Stranger danger?
00:05:24Kevin
And what about you, Jack?
00:05:25Jack
I'm definitely an ambivert and I just learned that term right now, but.
00:05:31발표자 1
Give me for.
00:05:31Kevin
Smith and more give you some details.
00:05:32Jack
Top yeah, so yeah, so I'm trying to think.
00:05:34Jack
Like for me.
00:05:36Jack
Going out with people is a little bit stressful.
00:05:39Jack
It gives me anxiety.
00:05:41Jack
So I'm OK with not doing that.
00:05:45Jack
Where, you know, like an extrovert really wants to meet up with friends and go out.
00:05:49Jack
For me it's like it feels like effort and work and then once I'm out and I'm, I'm with my friends and doing something.
00:05:57Jack
I feel great.
00:05:58Jack
I'm like I'm so.
00:05:59Jack
Glad I did this.
00:06:00Jack
I'm so glad I decided to, you know, come out of my.
00:06:05Jack
Little apartment, my little house, and to, you know, actually interact with other people, humans.
00:06:11Jack
But I do tend to kind of go back to being alone and I think it has something to do with just the nature of.
00:06:21Jack
Of living in another country and not really understanding the language and the customs and stuff that.
00:06:27Jack
Uh, and so I would often spend a lot of time by myself and just kind of put my headphones in and just I really.
00:06:36Jack
Be kind of introverted, but I don't I think naturally I'm, I'm, you know, kind of in the middle, you know, just a just a regular, you know person, a little bit of both.
00:06:46Kevin
Yeah, yeah.
00:06:48Kevin
I think travel.
00:06:49Kevin
Is where this really can come out in people in one way or the other.
00:06:52Kevin
Is depending on your travel styles and and this might be something interesting as well to talk about in a future episode is how do you like?
00:07:00Kevin
To travel but.
00:07:02Kevin
Like when you guys have.
00:07:03Kevin
You ever done much solo traveling just to another country for, you know, a week or two just completely on your own, or do you prefer to travel with?
00:07:11Xochitl
I mean I.
00:07:12Xochitl
Went to Korea solo, right?
00:07:13Xochitl
And I'm here in Mexico, so so I guess, yeah, I'm mad.
00:07:17Kevin
I'm gonna say though, that that's a little bit different from traveling because that's going to move and to live there.
00:07:24Kevin
I'm saying like you go to Thailand or.
00:07:28Kevin
Canada or Russia, pick a country for just you know like 2 weeks just to travel and.
00:07:33Kevin
Just to do.
00:07:34Kevin
Sightseeing and and just be a tourist.
00:07:35Kevin
Are you going to do that alone or with friends?
00:07:39발표자 5
I think I preferred to trout like when I.
00:07:42Xochitl
Was in Korea and.
00:07:43Xochitl
I would travel to different places within Korea.
00:07:45Kevin
Right. OK.
00:07:45Xochitl
You commit with my friends and.
00:07:47Xochitl
The funny thing is, they are definitely moments where I was like it probably better if I was alone.
00:07:51Xochitl
But I could do everything that I.
00:07:53Xochitl
Wanted to.
00:07:53Xochitl
Do and not have to worry about it everyone else wants to do.
00:07:56Xochitl
But I do think there's something comforting about having a group of.
00:08:01Xochitl
People well as a woman too, like that's another.
00:08:03Xochitl
Thing having the people that.
00:08:05Xochitl
You know, and not having.
00:08:06Kevin
Of course.
00:08:06Xochitl
To travel like solo because.
00:08:09Xochitl
Yeah, Korea is pretty safe.
00:08:10Xochitl
But like here in Mexico, I would never.
00:08:12Xochitl
And it's sad 'cause.
00:08:13Xochitl
I wanna be able to travel to more places in Mexico, but I just would never do that as a as a woman here, because it's not that safe, not you know.
00:08:20Xochitl
To change the topic or anything but.
00:08:22Xochitl
I think that.
00:08:22Kevin
It's a it's a fair, yeah.
00:08:24Kevin
I mean, so like, I mean me talking about traveling alone versus you talking about traveling on is, is is a different thing unfortunately.
00:08:32Jack
But I mean, it's funny because I've never done that before.
00:08:35Jack
I've never traveled alone like I I didn't.
00:08:38Jack
I moved to another country alone.
00:08:40Jack
But as far as jet going travelling, like if I were to just go on, buy a eurail pass and just go see like a bunch of European countries, I would never do that by myself.
00:08:51Jack
I'm too scared. I'm, I'm still, I'm 45, but I'm like, I'm gonna get lost in the Czech Republic. No one will. They'll find my body in the forest or something, because I.
00:09:01Jack
You know, got lost.
00:09:02Jack
I mean, I just, I just think it's a bit extreme, but.
00:09:04Kevin
It's a bit extreme, Jack, but.
00:09:06Jack
I'm just like I just.
00:09:07Jack
I need, like, the companionship to feel safe, like there's two of us.
00:09:12Jack
We can figure this out alone.
00:09:14Jack
I feel like I I don't know.
00:09:16Jack
I just.
00:09:17Jack
I probably would be fine, but.
00:09:18Jack
I just feel like I lack.
00:09:19Jack
The skills or they know how to just kind of navigate that situation.
00:09:24Jack
So I like someone with me to make me feel comfortable, even though I probably don't need.
00:09:29Jack
That person, if that makes sense.
00:09:31Kevin
Nice for me and I think we can maybe wrap up with us and we should come back and talk about this again.
00:09:37Kevin
'cause we can do get much more into depth, although now I almost never travel alone.
00:09:43Kevin
That's because I'm married.
00:09:45Jack
Anyway, I'm saying for me too, yeah.
00:09:45Kevin
Also, I have a permanent amazing travel companion, but before I got married, almost every trip I did.
00:09:56Kevin
Actually, not almost every trip that I did, at least after university, once I moved to to Korea was so low I was just like, I'm just going to go to some country for, you know, a month.
00:10:06Kevin
I went to Bali for a month.
00:10:07Kevin
I went on that island for a month.
00:10:08Kevin
There's just boom, boom, boom.
00:10:10Kevin
Just go to to travel alone and.
00:10:13Kevin
And I loved it because.
00:10:18Kevin
In order to not be bored, I had to push myself to be an extrovert.
00:10:23Kevin
So some days I don't want to be extroverted.
00:10:25Kevin
I was like, I just want to stay at home and and and be introverted today.
00:10:29Kevin
But then I'd sit in my room and I'm like, I'm bored.
00:10:33Kevin
I want to meet some people and like all, but I'm feeling lazy, I'm feeling introverted.
00:10:36Kevin
I'm like, but I'm bored and I don't want to be bored, so I would go out.
00:10:39Kevin
And I would force myself to meet.
00:10:40Kevin
People, and that's hard.
00:10:41Kevin
To do, but I met some amazing people while traveling around like that, and so I love traveling solo actually, even though I no longer do.
00:10:51Xochitl
Yeah, I don't know if you guys have ever.
00:10:54Xochitl
There's like a meme out.
00:10:56Xochitl
There, where it's like introverts getting adopted by extroverts.
00:11:00발표자 1
Ah, OK, that's interesting.
00:11:00Kevin
I haven't seen this one.
00:11:01Xochitl
Like, can you get adopted by an extrovert?
00:11:04Xochitl
And this does happen to me, even though I'm an ambivert.
00:11:07Xochitl
But extroverts tend to adopt me and.
00:11:10Xochitl
Literally just start.
00:11:10Xochitl
Taking me everywhere and I think.
00:11:12Xochitl
This is some kind of dynamic that.
00:11:15Xochitl
That I've had since I was a.
00:11:16Xochitl
Kid 'cause, my sister, is a true extrovert.
00:11:18Xochitl
So she would take me everywhere and like.
00:11:19Xochitl
Jack said.
00:11:21Xochitl
He he would.
00:11:22Xochitl
Feel happy when he.
00:11:23Xochitl
Was out, but he didn't want to go out when.
00:11:25Xochitl
I was younger.
00:11:25Xochitl
I was definitely like, oh, I just want.
00:11:27Xochitl
To stay at home, I should be like, no?
00:11:28Xochitl
Let's go and.
00:11:28Xochitl
She just like drag.
00:11:29Xochitl
Me around.
00:11:29Xochitl
Everywhere she went and I feel happy that I was out.
00:11:33Xochitl
But yeah, I feel like.
00:11:34Xochitl
Getting adopted just haven't been created.
00:11:36Xochitl
As well, anytime I just go someplace, I.
00:11:39Xochitl
Just end up getting adopted.
00:11:40Xochitl
By a group of extra braids or a friend group or something and they just start showing.
00:11:44발표자 5
Me, around everywhere.
00:11:45Xochitl
So that is, that is a + 2, maybe having a slightly introverted exterior.
00:11:51발표자 5
When people first meet.
00:11:52Xochitl
I don't know.
00:11:53Xochitl
I don't see that necessarily in all situations, but perhaps in some situations.
00:11:58Kevin
Nice I had to do.
00:11:59Jack
Yeah, I have like, sorry, go ahead.
00:12:00Kevin
That I'll go ahead drive.
00:12:01Jack
No, I was going to say.
00:12:02Jack
I think I have like, uh, resting angry face or something.
00:12:06Jack
So, like people, when I'm just my, I don't have any emotion and my face is just resting, I look like I'm like a little bit angry or a little scary or something so.
00:12:17Jack
Like a house party.
00:12:18Jack
You know, those were terrifying situations where you don't know anybody and you're in a house party.
00:12:23Jack
I tend to just kind of go towards the corner and then start observing.
00:12:28Jack
And if I'm not adopted by an extrovert, I might.
00:12:31Jack
Just leave, because I just don't have that, whatever.
00:12:35Jack
That thing is that you know forces you to walk up to a group of strangers and say, hey, my name is Jack.
00:12:41Jack
Nice to meet you.
00:12:42Jack
It's it's really hard for.
00:12:44Jack
Me to do that, so I don't know if that sheds light on it.
00:12:47Jack
Little bit, but yeah.
00:12:50Kevin
Well, for everybody listening out there, I mean, what about you?
00:12:53Kevin
Are you an introvert and extrovert and ambivert?
00:12:57Kevin
Or when are you introverted?
00:12:59Kevin
When are you extroverted, right?
00:13:01Kevin
If you're an ambivert, tell us some stories about when you were introverted or or when you were extroverted or.
00:13:08Kevin
How either of those work for you, so.
00:13:10발표자
There you go.
00:13:12Kevin
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00:13:13Kevin
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