SEX is POWERFUL | A conversation with a Sex Therapist | The Basement w- Tim Ross #033
Feb 8, 2023
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Join Tim Ross in a conversation with a sex therapist as they discuss topics like therapy, raising children, debunking myths about sexuality, accepting and loving one's body and sexuality, the journey of sexual wellbeing, exploring sensual and sexual activities, arousal and healing, storytelling in relationships, and empowering women to reclaim their power and choices.
Establishing a context of safety is crucial for an enjoyable sex life and overall relationship.
Open and honest communication deepens connection and builds trust, creating a strong foundation for a satisfying sex life.
Couples should expand the definition of intimacy beyond genital stimulation to engage in a wide range of activities that foster connection and exploration.
Deep dives
Prioritize safety
The foundation for an enjoyable sex life is creating a context of safety. This means prioritizing safety not only in sexual behaviors and activities but also in the overall relationship. By establishing safety, couples can navigate differences, explore and play, and support each other through various seasons and challenges.
Practice intimate and vulnerable communication
Cultivating open and honest communication is crucial for connecting in a relationship. This means going beyond surface-level conversations and sharing your thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities. By engaging in intimate and vulnerable communication, couples can deepen their connection and build trust, creating a strong foundation for a satisfying sex life.
Expand your definition of intimacy
Sexual intimacy is not solely about genital stimulation. Couples often limit their focus to sexual activities that lead to genital play, ignoring other forms of sensual and sexual exploration. By expanding the definition of intimacy, couples can engage in a wide range of activities that foster connection, pleasure, and exploration beyond just genital stimulation.
Maintain a sense of curiosity and exploration
To keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship, it's essential to maintain a sense of curiosity and exploration. This can involve trying new things, experimenting with different techniques, and discovering what brings pleasure and connection to both partners. By embracing a mindset of continuous exploration, couples can keep their sex life fresh and exciting.
The Importance of Safety and Communication in Relationships
Creating a safe environment and fostering open communication are crucial in relationships. By prioritizing safety, couples can establish trust and create a space where both partners feel secure. This includes setting boundaries and ensuring that each person feels emotionally and physically safe. Effective communication allows couples to express their needs, desires, and concerns, fostering understanding and connection. By actively listening and being vulnerable with one another, couples can deepen their emotional intimacy and strengthen their relationship.
Non-Demand Sexual and Sensual Activities
Engaging in non-demand sexual and sensual activities can be a beneficial experiment for couples, especially when there are differences in desire levels. Rather than putting pressure on sexual encounters to always lead to genital play, couples can engage in non-sexual activities that focus on connection, intimacy, and pleasure. These activities, such as cuddling, holding hands, or taking baths together, can foster emotional and physical closeness without the expectation of sex. By removing the demand for sexual activity and focusing on pleasure and connection, couples can navigate differences in desire levels and create a more fulfilling and balanced sexual relationship.