Her Best Life Stop trying to be the ‘perfect parent’ with Dr Shefali
Nov 25, 2025
Dr. Shefali, a clinical psychologist and bestselling author, dives deep into the complexities of conscious parenting and personal identity. She discusses the necessity of self-work before parenting, the challenges of raising teens, and the pitfalls of perfectionism in mothers. Dr. Shefali highlights practical self-soothing techniques for parents and emphasizes the importance of conscious choices in difficult relationships. She also speaks candidly about body image, aging, and the power of courageous reinvention in midlife.
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Early Retreat Sparked Lifelong Seeking
- Shefali began deep spiritual work in her early 20s, attending a silent meditation retreat at 21 that catalysed her lifelong seeking.
- Ongoing meditation helped her preempt harsher rock-bottoms and equipped her to navigate future shadows.
Balance Guidance With Teen Individuation
- When teenagers begin individuation, step in and then step back to let them lead while keeping trust and connection.
- Watch for red-flag behaviours like excessive screen use and pull the reins only when their selfhood is at risk.
Parenting Is An Ongoing Mirror
- You cannot 'fix' parenting once and be done; parenting is an ongoing mirror that keeps revealing different shadows.
- Who you are with a young child won't be who you need to be with a teenager, so stay present and reflective.
