Listen to Lakshmi, named among the 'Best Guests of 2023' on tech and culture podcast PIVOT, as she discusses the difference between success and striving in relationships. She offers insights on recognizing signs of striving in potential partners and shares alternative questions for deeper connections. Learn how to assess ambition and goals in dating and the workplace.
Striving, rather than success, is an important quality to look for in a partner as it demonstrates dedication to personal growth and learning.
Asking thoughtful questions about someone's striving can lead to more meaningful connections and conversations, going beyond superficial markers of success.
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The Importance of Striving vs. Success
In today's dating climate, the idea of success has become a filter for potential partners. However, the host emphasizes the importance of striving, which is different from pure ambition or success. Striving is about pushing towards something with resilience, care, humor, and creativity, and it is about becoming a better version of oneself. Striving is a valuable quality to look for in a partner as it shows a person's dedication to personal growth and learning. This concept of striving goes beyond dating and can be applied to various aspects of life.
Reframing Dating Questions
The host presents a set of questions that can help uncover if someone is striving. These questions go beyond the typical conversation about hobbies. Instead of asking about hobbies, the host suggests asking about what someone has been meaning to learn, what they haven't quite figured out yet, what they're working to get better at, and what they feel compelled to learn or do. These questions provide insights into someone's aspirations, curiosity, and personal growth, offering a more expansive understanding of who they are as a person.
The Impact of Striving on Dating
By focusing on the quality of striving rather than narrow definitions of success, people can improve their dating experiences. Understanding and appreciating someone's striving can lead to more meaningful connections and conversations. It also allows individuals to look beyond superficial markers of success and engage with a person's aspirations and future goals. By asking thoughtful questions about someone's striving, it is possible to uncover their unique qualities and the potential for a deeper connection.
Success seems like a quality we should look for in.people we date. But what is success and what if something like the quality of striving is more important now? Maybe you're wondering what striving is. Listen in as Lakshmi talks about the difference and offers tools on how to assess the degree to which someone is striving in their life.
Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067
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The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.
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