"I just want to note, after giving so many lectures the past few months and being asked a lot about being a 'good poly person' - there isn't one - the points don't matter."

This week, Laura sits down with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure , to discuss attachment theory, trauma, and secure relating in polyamorous networks. Their conversation roams across the book and the topic. If you aren't at all familiar with attachment theory, there's a post on the Ready for Polyamory blog with more information to help clarify the concepts: www.readyforpolyamory/post/why-attachment , and if you're intrigued and want to read PolySecure you can find the book here.

Jessica's mailing list with information on various free workshops and lectures can be subscribed to at https://jessicafern.com, and she also posts paid events she's hired for there.

Ready for Polyamory has a new Facebook home! We've started a group - to better build community and a discussion forum for polyamorous folks we have a private (membership not visible except to other group members) but searchable (you can type Ready for Polyamory to find it and request to join) group at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory . Come join us!

As always, you can find us at the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, support us and keep the lights on via Patreon or ko-fi at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and I'm on twitter @lauracb88.

Special Guest: Jessica Fern.