Why Everything You Know About Couples' Therapy is Wrong w/ Dr. Bruce Chalmer (#73)

I recently talked to a friend about the hit show, White Lotus.  Season 2 was particularly juicy and we focused on if one of the couples could ever repair their relationship after a potential betrayal. That convo went in so many directions I decided to speak with an expert about betrayal and forgiveness.  Enter Dr. Bruce Chalmer, a psychologist who has been working with couples for over thirty years.  Through his teaching, consulting, and books, his ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists.  Together with his wife Judy, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.” He is the author of three books:  Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again It is Not About Communication. Why everything you know about couples therapy is wrong  Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back In today's episode, we discuss: --Understanding a partner's reluctance to go to therapy is crucial. --Success in therapy is not solely defined by couples staying together. --Most relationship problems are rooted in deeper emotional issues, not just communication. --Forgiveness is an internal process that can lead to emotional healing. --Trust must be rebuilt by both partners after betrayal. --Therapy can be likened to improv, requiring adaptability and openness. --Acceptance of reality is essential for personal growth and healing. --Forgiving oneself is the first step in the forgiveness process. --Recognizing that both partners are doing their best can foster understanding. KNOW MORE KNOW LESS PODCAST: For other platforms: Listen here: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/know-more-know-less/id1652659219 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2fxCXp5AlfajmcTgvSWSGl?si=87be920940534299 For full episodes and clips:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN4wkMATGEXMTU4Xrw-YZTA