This is a Fan Fav episode. Ever felt like setting boundaries is just too damn hard? I hear you, and honestly, you’re not alone! So many of us women struggle to stand our ground—then end up feeling resentful, invisible, or straight-up used. That’s why I sat down with legendary psychotherapist and “Boundary Boss” Terri Cole to break down exactly why we freeze, people-please, and self-abandon—and, most importantly, how to stop. Terri gets brutally honest about the root causes of poor boundaries, from family expectations to people-pleasing patterns, and gives us the roadmap for becoming our own damn advocates.

With real talk, tactical steps, and compassion for every woman still learning to use her voice, Terri reveals the warning signs of weak boundaries (they’re not what you think!), the power of resentment as your wake-up call, and scripts for even the most awkward family encounters—hello, narcissistic mothers and nosy Aunt Betty! Get ready to ditch guilt, drop the drama, and start setting limits that honor YOU.

SHOWNOTES

00:00 – Why boundary setting triggers insecurity, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment
02:29 – Resentment as a red flag: How to spot disordered boundaries in your life
06:44 – Taking responsibility for your “50%” and the art of clear, proactive communication
14:18 – Childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, and the roots of boundary struggles
36:28 – High-functioning codependency: Why “superwomen” still give too much
51:28 – Suppressed anger, the power of naming your feelings, and setting stronger boundaries
1:09:06 – Scripts for handling invasive relatives & rude questions at family gatherings
1:19:33 – Narcissistic mothers: Signs, hard limits, and how to protect your energy
1:28:44 – Relationship boundaries: From stating your needs to enforcing consequences and non-negotiables
1:29:43 – Making boundaries a language—why practice and self-compassion change everything

FOLLOW TERRI COLE:

Instagram: https://instagram.com/terricole
Website: https://www.terricole.com
Book: https://boundarybossbook.com

Ready to become a BOUNDARY BOSS? Let’s go!

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