Shedding Your “Coat” When the Seasons of Life Change - Dave Woodward - FHR #302

Why Dave Decided to Talk About Shedding Your Coat When the Seasons Change:

Dave in both work and his personal life has had a lot of transitioning and growth happen. From kids getting married, to businesses expanding, to even becoming close to having an “Empty Nest” with his kids leaving. Through all of these experiences of life he wants to share the nugget of wisdom that is of role changing. Or, as English speakers call it, wearing different coats. Listen in and learn for yourself as to what Dave says about dawning new responsibilities yourself and allowing others to take on new responsibilities to.

Tips and Tricks for You and Your Business:

(2:44) Your Coats Change as Your Life Enters New Seasons

(4:11) Which Coat Do I Wear Outside of Work?

(6:40) Putting on Coats for Growth

(8:24) Your job, or “Coat”, is not your ONLY identity

Quotable Moments:

(3:30) “I don’t know what coat to wear right now, I’ve been so use to wearing my ‘Mom Coat’. But I’m entering into this new stage of my life right now where I might be changing and I’m not sure what to do.”

(5:46) “One of the things she mentioned that I thought was so profound was our ‘Comfortable Coat’ sometimes just needs to be replaced.”

(7:54) “Realize that sometimes in life we have so many coats that it feels overwhelming and other times it is a growth time.”

Other Tidbits:

For CLickFunnels to grow “Coats”, or responsibilities, have been needed to be swapped around and exchanged

No one can travel lighter than Todd

Important Episode Links:

FunnelHackingLive.comFunnelHackerRadio.com FunnelHackerRadio.com/freetrial FunnelHackerRadio.com/dreamcar

---Transcript---

Speaker 1:       00:00         Welcome to funnel hacker radio podcast, where we go behind the scenes and uncover the tactics and strategies top entrepreneurs are using to make more sales, dominate their markets, and how you can get those same results. Here's your host, Dave Woodward.

Speaker 2:       00:16         Everybody. Welcome back to funnel hacker radio. This is A. I'm recording this. It's all. It's almost Christmas time. It's cold out and it's just that, that season two where it's been so much fun. We moved up here to Boise, Idaho from San Diego two years ago, two and a half years ago, and in the process it was kind of a fun thing for us because I remember when we first moved up here, our kids live at all they had were shorts t shirts and a sweatshirt, so pants and long sleeves and coats were something that my boys just weren't accustomed to worried and it's been fun having four seasons and realizing the different clothing that you wear based on the season of life and the season that you're in. And so it's been really kind of an interesting dynamic. As I paid attention to this set, my wife and I were out shopping to just Saturday for new, basically new ski jackets and it was, it was just a lot of fun because she's trying on all these different ones and you know, some are too thick and some are too uncomfortable and, and some are too thin and she's like, I don't know if this is gonna, keep me warm enough and, and do I have to have another layer on underneath.

Speaker 2:       01:21         And went through literally like this whole drama of all these different coats. And it was fun because this whole analogy of coats and the things that we were and the story of the life and the journey that we're in all came about. And we had this amazing conversation that I want to kind of share with you some of the takeaways and some of the things that happened. The fun part was literally just two days later, uh, Brian and todd flew for our partner meeting. And it's always a kind of a joke with us as far as todd because I don't know anybody who can travel as light as todd. Todd literally can go with just a backpack for a week and have all the clothes and everything else he needs in there. And this time he actually brought something a little, a little more clothing and stuff and we're like, todd would happen because man, it's just so cold.

Speaker 2:       02:07         I add he had like four different layers and logged or odds and end. It was just fun as we had this idea as far as talking about the phase of life and the coats that you were. And I want to just kind of share that with you. So this is going to be kind of a rambling, the mismatched podcast of different ideas and thoughts. But I will hopefully by the end you understand how this applies to you personally, not only in your business life but where you are in your personal life and the own self growth and the things that you're going through. So without. We'll kind of dive into it. So one of the things I want to talk about real quick here is to realize that the coats, they actually vary based on the season that you're in your life and what's going on right now in my life.

Speaker 2:       02:48         My wife and I have four boys. A two of them are out of the house. My oldest son, Chandler is married to our first daughter, our daughter Law Fran. We just love and adore. My son Parker Parker is a down at Byu in Provo, Utah. Going to school and then we have my son Christian who's 17 and my son Jackson, who's 15 who both live with us here in Boise and Christian is a senior. So He's graduating in. My wife's sitting there going take. I don't know what I'm going to do. My whole life has been focused on raising these boys and now I'm in a situation to where I'm going to have. I'm down to one, I'm down to one next year and I'm assuming going to be in this empty nest syndrome. And and so she, she basically said, you know, Dave, I don't know what coat to wear right now.

Speaker 2:       03:30         I'm used to wearing the mom coat, but I feel like I've, I'm in a situation in my life where I'm, I may be changing this and I don't know what to do, and so she's been looking. She's always done things outside the home as far as teaching aerobics or spinning or yoga or all that. And before again, before we left southern California, she had this, her calling and her mission and everything else was. Her identity was wrapped around this. Well, when we came here, she didn't jump into that, that aspect of it. We had a whole bunch of stuff going on in our own personal lives and it wasn't one one thing she wanted to jump in, so at the time she was trying to figure out right now, do I go back to that? Do I put on the old coat that feels comfortable that I'm used to wearing or do I put on a new coat that might be a few sizes bigger than I grow into that's going to stretch me.

Speaker 2:       04:15         That's gonna. She goes, I just don't know what to do. And so we're having that deep conversation and you know, part of it was dave, the other thing I'm looking at is maybe this is the time where I just focus on, on just us and just you and I and I just support you in what you're doing and I don't have that extra identity outside. And so it's, it's, she's struggling with this whole idea as far as what is the code, what am I going to be known for, what am I gonna be wearing, what am I going to be using to get the comfort that I want in my life? So we're having this deep conversation about this. And it was interesting because she's, we also were talking them about a Sunday school lesson and a mill with the Bible and Joseph and the coat of many colors.

Speaker 2:       04:57         And she was like, you know, it's weird because I remember growing up, there was times where I coveted tonight, I'm not maybe not coveted, but I looked at others and I thought, you know what, that life that they have and that coat that they're wearing, that's what I want. And she goes, now I'm wearing that and now I don't know if it's what I want. And so she was struggling going back and forth thinking, you know, what, you know, so often we, we see what others have and the lifestyle or the or just the opportunities and you think that's the quote I want to wear and what do I need to do to get that coat on? And she's like, well I have that code and now I don't know if I like that coat. And so it's just been this interesting dynamic as we've been talking about this in one of the things she made Mitch, which I thought was so profound and that is sometimes are comfortable coat just needs to be replaced and we just don't know which coat to put on next.

Speaker 2:       05:51         Meaning like for me, I, I really don't need too many pieces of it. I'm real good with like one pair of jeans, three tee shirts and a jacket. That's all I need and I'll just figure it all out. And yet at the same time sit there going, you know, sometimes with our boys, she always thought, you know, always seem to buy like two sizes too big because they would grow into it. Well now they're kind of at the point where they don't need to, we don't need to buy clothes that way for him. But she was sitting there thinking in her own life, she goes, I don't know if I'm at a point right now, where do I want to buy a coat that's two sizes too big for me so I can grow and get into that or do I just want to put on something really comfortable that I know?

Speaker 2:       06:29         And so she's in this dynamic in her life where she's like, I don't know what I want to do next and because I don't know what I want to do next, I don't know if I just like being comfortable or do I want a growth experience. And when you look at the coach and put on, sometimes the coat you put on is a growth experience where it's like, it feels very, very uncomfortable where it's too big and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't know if I can handle this. I don't know what to do next. The other thing as she was talking about is, you know, the other thing I'm struggling with is I've worn a lot of coats a lot of different times and we're in all these coats. They get heavy and I were the mom Coda where the wife code where the.

Speaker 2:       07:10         She's heavily involved in our church and so she's, she has stewardship and responsibilities over all the, all the women's within our church and she's supposed to where's that coat? Very heavy. And she wears another coat as far as uh, being the only daughter in her extended family based with her mom and dad and, and taking care of them. And so she's like, Dave, there are times where I feel like I have on so many coats that I literally, I can't move. It's like I have like 10 coats on it. I literally sit there like a snowman because I just, I'm so uncomfortable and I just don't know what to do and I just want to get rid of all these coats and so I know I'm kind of maybe just kind of rambling and I hope you guys are catching onto the idea of what I'm trying to say here, but to realize that there's times in life where we have so many coats on that it feels overwhelming and there's other times where it is a growth time.

Speaker 2:       08:00         Uh, the one thing she was talking about just most recently though, which I thought was so, so profound is as we were discussing and that is she goes, but you know, Dave, there's times where I realized it's time for me to give my coat to somebody else and I need to, to not be the star or I need to not be the person who is out in front all the time and to let someone else have that and giving that to them. At times I feel exposed. I feel like, well, that was me and that was my identity. And now it's not. And so I feel uncomfortable with not with not having what, what was my identity and I thought a lot about it because I've seen it in my own life where there have been times where I have been the only person up in front.

Speaker 2:       08:42         And as I came on with click funnels, it was. I'm not always up in front. Not that I need to be at all, but it's interesting to realize as you try to grow a company, you can't have just one person and we're. We've been looking at this as far as our own organization as far as having different voices. And I think the part I really appreciate it so much as Russell and spoken about this I'm Russell is by far is, is the face of clickfunnels. And as we've looked at growing it, he's like, you know, Dave, I need to make sure that others have that opportunity. Not only for them but for the company to grow to that next level. We've done over 100 million this year, which is a huge, huge milestone. But as we start looking to get to a billion, who else needs to take on other coats, who needs to take on other responsibilities, who needs to have in it much more loud coat and, and is wearing that so he can actually enjoy some of his life and spend more time with his family and his kids.

Speaker 2:       09:36         And so it's been just this crazy conversation over the last couple of weeks and I'm just, I want to kind of share it with you as you kind of get close to the end of the year. Just to realize that there's times where no matter what you're doing, you just don't feel comfortable and you realize that that's the time in life where it's time to grow. That might be too big or you might be having on five or six coats and you're like, I can't handle it. And other times where it's like, you know what? Now it's time for me to start giving these coats away to other people and I need to let them grow. I need to have to not only give this coat that I'm given to them, it may be too big for them to wear, but they'll grow into it and soon that coat will become comfortable for them and other times there's times where we just outgrow our coats and it's time to for us to realize, you know what?

Speaker 2:       10:21         Now it's time for me to decide what is the next coat I want to put on. As I kind of get close to wrapping this up, I hope I know this rambling is it literally has been a ton of thoughts. I've been going through my head for the last couple of weeks and hopefully this makes sense to you guys, but I would really just asked, you know what, just don't be afraid to share your coat with others and don't be afraid to get a new coat or it can get to layer up, but depending on the season of life that you're in and just realize that whatever you're going through, that's time for you to. It's a time to grow. It's a time, two at a time to help others to learn. Learn from you and from your experience, so realize as you take a look at the season that I know it's kind of the winter months right now where you'll see a whole bunch of different coats and you'll see people layer up and everything else.

Speaker 2:       11:08         Kind of look at the different layers of life that you're wearing, the responsibilities that you have. What are the responsibilities that you can give to others to help you grow in your business and your own personal life? What are the responsibilities where you may need to take those back and you may need to know what that one's mine. I own that one, and just realize that the most important thing for you right now is to really take a look at the future where you want to go, who you want to become, and to realize what is the coat that you need to be wearing, wearing at that point. Have an amazing holiday season. I hope, uh, hopefully this made some sense to you guys. I've had so many thoughts in my head, in my mind right now and I want to share them all with you and I wish I could just me have you sit next to me is I've been going through the craziness of the last couple of months here, um, but I hope you've been able to appreciate it and most importantly, have an amazing time. Get it. Really would love

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