349: How to Pick Your Battles Without Being a Doormat | Feedback Friday
May 8, 2020
This discussion dives into the art of choosing your battles without becoming a doormat, especially during tense pandemic times. The hosts examine the struggle of weighing stances on complex issues while acknowledging limited information. They're joined by stories of navigating conflict in schools and personal belief shifts stemming from conservative upbringings. Additionally, the challenges of adapting to traditional gender roles in relationships are explored, highlighting the importance of critical thinking and flexibility in personal dynamics.
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Handling Conflict with Difficult People
Apologize initially when dealing with conflict, especially if you don't know the person well.
Ignore any subsequent drama to avoid feeding attention-seeking behavior.
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Critical Thinking vs. Belief Systems
Replacing one set of strong beliefs with another hinders critical thinking.
It's better to develop critical thinking skills instead of just adopting new beliefs.
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Evaluating a Relationship with Differing Values
Consider if staying in a relationship with misaligned values serves you or your children.
Prioritize your well-being and model healthy relationships for your kids.
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You've never thought of yourself as a doormat, but you've just found it easier to meet people halfway and go with the flow rather than waste your energy on something stupid or trivial. So how do you pick your battles -- especially while everyone who's been following the advice of medical professionals to stay home during the pandemic is feeling a little cooped up and abrasive right now? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!
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How do you choose your battles and resolve conflict without being a doormat -- especially while everyone's a bit on edge during this long, long pandemic?
You feel you should have strong stances on certain issues, but you don't want your bias to stop you from weighing the evidence that informs those stances. Is it wrong to not take a stand on issues because you honestly don't have all the information?
Your friend married an African man with old-world views of gender roles, so she works full time and maintains the house because he won't help with "women's" work. Quarantine has almost broken her. How can she get him to stop thinking in the 19th century and join her in the 21st?
You're an introvert about to move to an unfamiliar city to take up an exciting, challenging new job with a bigger paycheck. What are the most important things to keep in mind during this hard reset?
You're a jack of all trades with no clear idea of what to do with your life, and you tend to get bored after doing one thing for a while. What might you do to focus and choose a path that will keep you occupied over the long haul?
Your job hunt lost momentum as the reaction to COVID-19 started gearing up. You know this pandemic will pass, but what should you do to find the gainful employment you want after this is over?
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