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Vanessa Torre: Unmasking & rebuilding after a midlife crisis

Apr 10, 2023
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Episode 132 with Vanessa Torre.

“I felt like I had no control over my chattiness. I kept googling ‛Why can’t I stop talking?’ And every single result came back with ‛Have you considered ADHD?’”

Vanessa is a writer, speaker, and coach living her best life in Phoenix, Arizona. About a year ago at the of age 48, Vanessa quit her 20+ year corporate career to pursue her creative passions full-time. She sold her house in the suburbs, moved to an apartment in downtown Phoenix, and turned her writing and editing side hustle into a full-time business.

It was during that time that she was diagnosed with ADHD and she now helps other women, particularly those late diagnosed with ADHD, who feel stuck in midlife to navigate this amazing time of growth and exploration to make huge changes that lead to a more creative and fulfilling life led with intention.

We chat about unmasking and self-acceptance after a late diagnosis and our theories as to why so many women are diagnosed during perimenopause. We also talk about the stages of a late ADHD diagnosis — including denial, curiosity, elation, grief, resentment, grit, and advocacy work. And Vanessa shares what it’s been like to date for the first time as an unmasked woman.

Website: www.vanessatorre.com

TikTok: @vanessaltorre

Instagram: @vanessaltorre


Additional links: 

2-week Midlife Visioning Mini-Course

The Modern Women’s Midlife Crisis is “Quiet Quitting” Her Life

Midlife Women's Newsletter

Late to My Own Party stickers and downloadables


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Episode edited by E Podcast Productions

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