Why We Crave Control, Certainty and Consistency

Jason Gorskie is a communications consultant, personality profiler, functional coach, and neuro-linguistic programming practitioner. He has profiled hundreds of people and travels the globe helping people to understand themselves differently and to improve their quality of life. Jason graduated from the University of Pennsylvania with a B.A. in Science, Technology, and Society. After graduation he moved to Europe to compete internationally on multiple professional soccer teams. During his five years overseas, Jason began to study neuro-linguistic programming and Jungian personality profiling, and is now certified in multiple practices. He has advised executives, professional athletes, and creatives on how to take action improving themselves, their relationships, conflict management, communication skills, as well as other related topics.

Jason currently leads and facilitates Confidence and Social-Emotional Workshops to students in NY public high-schools alongside Sanne Vloet, with the goal of getting emotional intelligence into school curriculums across the United States.

Some topics we cover in this episode include:

The different ways people use control as a source of comfort

Why we’ve been conditioned to associate certainty with safety

The various levels/stages of uncertainty and how we react to it

How routines have become so prevalent and how to not fixate on them

How we can control the meaning of situations

A simple approach to moving on from any situation

How to make sense of experiences that we seek closure from

Understanding who we are when we don’t have certainty

How to process and welcome emotions with grace

Advice for what to do when you feel “stuck”