BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko 138: Why He Pulls Away When You Do Everything for Him.
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Nov 9, 2025 In this engaging discussion, Margarita explores the exhaustion that comes from people-pleasing and the hidden costs of mothering a partner. She reveals how this behavior can repel genuine masculine attraction and why it stems from childhood conditioning. The conversation highlights the dangers of managing a partner's life, as well as the importance of allowing them to fail. Margarita emphasizes that prioritizing self-care and healthy selfishness can restore attraction and self-worth, making it clear that true value comes from how we treat ourselves.
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Mothering Versus Nurturing
- Mothering a romantic partner is different from loving or nurturing and often stems from past unmet needs.
- That dynamic creates anxious attachment and pushes desirable partners away.
Childhood Convenience Breeds Adult Patterns
- Margarita describes becoming the
Stop Mothering; Pull Back
- Avoid deploying mothering (instructional, controlling) energy toward a partner because it repels masculine desire.
- Pulling back from mothering reveals whether a man truly wants you or was only using you.