It’s Time To Advocate For Yourself with Heather Hansen

In this compelling episode of Productive Joy, Dr. Christie welcomes Heather Hansen, a podcaster, author, speaker, voracious reader, and former trial attorney. They delve into Heather's journey of balancing elegance with warrior-like determination in and out of the courtroom. Heather discusses her book 'The Elegant Warrior: How to Win Life’s Trials Without Losing Yourself' and her TEDx talk on perspective versus empathy. 

She offers insights into advocating for yourself and the importance of perspective-taking in creating meaningful change. Heather also shares personal stories, including a transformative courtroom experience and her unique practice of journaling negative emotions. Throughout the episode Dr. Christie and Heather emphasize the power of beliefs in shaping reality and encourage listeners to embrace joy and productivity harmoniously.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:17 Meet Heather Hanson

01:02 The Importance of Self-Advocacy

02:26 Heather's Journey as a Trial Attorney

04:15 Balancing Elegance and Warrior Spirit

09:26 The Power of Perspective

10:41 Heather's TEDx Experience

15:19 Defining Productive Joy

18:50 Beliefs Drive Behaviors

19:26 Creating Joy in the Legal Profession

21:16 Balancing Fun and Professionalism

22:22 Understanding Your Audience

26:36 Jury Duty Anecdotes

30:20 Rapid Fire Questions

35:42 Final Thoughts and Contact Information

 A Deeper Dive:

In a recent episode of "Productive Joy," Christie welcomes Heather Hansen,

Heather highlights a common issue many individuals face: the struggle to advocate for oneself while easily doing so for others. Her message is clear—learn to be your own advocate. Her book, "The Elegant Warrior: How to Win Life's Trials Without Losing Yourself," embodies this philosophy, teaching how to navigate the thin line between elegance and warrior spirit.

A significant portion of the discussion revolves around Heather's TEDx talk, "Why Perspective is Better than Empathy." She underscores the importance of cognitive empathy, seeing the world through others' eyes rather than simply feeling their emotions. In professions like education or law, understanding perspective can be far more productive and effective than mere empathy.

Christie and Heather explored the importance of showing up as one's authentic self. While humor and joy should be present in the workplace, it's essential to understand and respect different personalities and how they might respond to public displays of silliness or fun. Recognizing when and how to incorporate joy into professional settings leads to more authentic and fulfilling interactions.

Heather's route to TEDx was filled with a desire to share a meaningful message rather than achieving recognition. Her focus on how cognitive empathy can transform professions reveals a thoughtful shift from personal pride to public service. Her story reminds us that succeeding in such transitions relies on clarity of message and purpose.

In a heartfelt sharing, Heather discussed dealing with grief through journaling, encouraging people to express thoughts—good or bad—without fear of judgment. She argues it's not the thoughts that shape reality, but the beliefs we hold. Letting go of negative thoughts prevents them from transforming into detrimental beliefs.

**Key Takeaways**

- **Advocate for Yourself:** Recognize that your skills and experiences need your voice. If you don't speak up for yourself, no one else will.

- **Perspective Over Empathy:** In various aspects of life, aspiring to understand and acknowledge others' perspectives can lead to better communication and effectiveness.

- **Joy in Professionalism:** Even in the most serious environments, allowing for joy and humor can lead to a healthier mental state and promote productivity.

- **Authenticity is Key:** In every role, whether personal or professional, showing up authentically makes interactions more meaningful and genuine.