#166 Breaking Free of the Rules — Rick Lewis on being a child actor, dropping out of college, being a professional juggler, street performing and a clowning, the corporate world as an outsider, breaking rules, parenting and how to reinvent yourself
Feb 13, 2024
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Rick Lewis, a speaker, author, and professional consultant, joins Paul Millerd on the podcast to discuss his journey of breaking free from societal rules. They cover topics like Rick's experience as a child actor, dropping out of college, becoming a street performer, observing the corporate world as an outsider, parenting, and how to reinvent oneself. It's an entertaining and insightful conversation about discovering hidden rules and embracing intelligent misbehavior.
Rick Lewis emphasizes the importance of breaking free from societal rules and expectations to find personal fulfillment.
Rick Lewis shares his journey of reinvention, from being a child actor to becoming a speaker and thought leader.
Taking risks in low-stakes situations is crucial for personal growth and gaining wisdom, as exemplified by Rick Lewis's unconventional approach to failure.
Deep dives
Growing up with supportive parents and hidden emotional struggles
Rick Lewis grew up in a supportive and encouraging family, where he was given the freedom to pursue his interests and passions. However, his father's lack of emotional expression and the absence of modeling healthy conflict resolution left Rick struggling to express his own emotions and vulnerabilities. This led him to navigate towards performance and achievement, finding success as a comedian, actor, and entertainer. However, this script of constantly performing and keeping his true self hidden eventually became a prison, preventing him from authentic human connection. It wasn't until the pandemic hit and his performance opportunities were no longer available that Rick realized the need to break free from this script and embrace vulnerability and genuine human connection.
Transition from actor to web designer and back to performer
After the recession in 2009, Rick found himself out of work as a comedian due to budget cuts in the entertainment industry. In a desperate attempt to support his family, he started selling web design services and considered transitioning into a web designer. However, his wife saw his true potential and discouraged him from settling for a career that didn't align with his passion for performance and connection. This pivotal moment pushed Rick to face his fears and embrace the path that truly brought him alive. He started speaking engagements, wrote a book, and reinvented himself as a speaker and thought leader. This shift allowed him to break free from his self-imposed prison and pursue a path that matched his authentic self.
Constant reinvention and breaking societal rules
Rick has dedicated himself to constant reinvention, always striving to challenge societal rules and expectations. He recognizes the importance of self-honesty and staying true to one's own values, even when it goes against the norm. Rick encourages others to explore their own rule-bound patterns and gather self-awareness through various models and frameworks. He emphasizes the need to interrupt patterns, step into discomfort, and push boundaries as key ingredients to personal growth and fulfillment. By continuously reinventing himself and breaking free from societal constraints, Rick has found a path that allows him to authentically connect with others and create a fulfilling life.
The Importance of Taking Risks
Taking risks, even in low-stakes situations, is crucial for personal growth and gaining wisdom. The fear of consequences can often hold us back, but by practicing risk-taking in low-stakes scenarios, we can learn from our failures and develop the discernment needed for future decision-making.
Embracing Mistakes and Unconventional Approaches
The speaker recounts an incident where a kitchen mishap led to the destruction of 400 plated lunches. Rather than panicking, the speaker put on a server apron and entertained the crowd as a bumbling and rude waiter. This unconventional approach of embracing failure and making mistakes became the central part of the speaker's performance. It led to a powerful impact on the audience and has since become a signature routine in speaking engagements.
Rick Lewis could be succinctly described as "a speaker, author & professional consultant", but such technical labelling wouldn't paint a fair picture of who he really is. He describes what he's doing as "intelligent misbehavior". He's public appearances have a much deeper goal than just pure entertainment. Rick is passionate about discovering and breaking the hidden rules that rule our behavior and stifle our growth as people.