Jeff Abraham: Why do men last 5:40 while women need 18 min?

Jeff Abraham is an entrepreneur who retired after selling a semiconductor engineering company, and we spoke about how he later built a sexual wellness brand by using medical credibility instead of hype. He explained that “even in healthy couples, the average man finishes in 5 minutes and 40 seconds” while “the average female takes 18 minutes,” a difference he called “the arousal gap.” Rather than compete with “197 products online—shark fin, deer antler extract,” he chose to power statistically significant clinical trials and have board-certified experts speak for the results.

He said that the turning point came from listening to customers, educating doctors, and refusing to rely on embarrassment or gimmicks. As he put it, “people said, is that an educational site or are you trying to sell product? I said both,” because correct dosing and informed use drive repeat outcomes. He also shared how leadership means joining employees “changing these labels” and spending hours in live chat to hear exactly how buyers discover solutions and what obstacles they face.

For listeners, his story shows how data, humility, and customer understanding can outperform shortcuts and noise—especially in markets filled with stigma and misinformation.

Key takeaways

• Use clinical proof to differentiate in crowded, distrustful markets
• Educate customers so correct use drives repeat results
• Listen to buyers to shape products and messaging
• Earn credibility through real experts, not stock imagery
• Lead by working alongside employees and customers
• Plan exit strategy early: joint venture or acquisition