High Frequency Leadership with Samantha Warren 118. 5 Ways To Make Friends When You're Socially Awkward
When we’re kids at school or even at university, making friends seems easy. You just sit next to the kid nearest to you with your lunch and there it is- a (sometimes) lifelong friendship is born. But it’s not as easy when we’re adults. It feels like the people we meet already have their own established lives or that they already have “enough friends” and won’t be looking for more. So how do we make (and keep) friends and create our own community when we get older?
THE STRUGGLE:
- Don't have a big group of friends
- Never had close friend relationships
- Always awkward for me
- Moved so much
- Friends scattered all over
- Not local
- Lots of my friends have kids
- Never been good at knowing how to make friends
- Doubt that someone wants to be friends w me
- Assume that they already have friends and won’t wanna hang w me
- My friends don’t live in the same state anymore
- We didn’t go to the same schools
- Self confidence thing: assumed that people didn’t wanna be my friend
- Never knew how to take
THE SOLUTION:
- Nurture and reach out to the friends you already have and ask yourself if there are any that are worth adding effort and which ones do you need to let go of?
- Remember WHY you want friendship [common interests, share stories, enjoy each others company, jokes, convos, laughing, good dinner]
- Find people who SEE and VALUE and PRIORITIZE your friendship as much as you value it
- Know that different friends have different purposes ex: fun day to day, vs. family crisis, vs.
- Friendship is like dating - find similar interests
IN SUMMARY:
Be the person that goes first.
Be the friend you want to attract. You are WHO you attract
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